Last year at this time, i just graduated from the last company。
It's nice to say "grader," but it's perfect. Hr, with the compensation of n+1, shakes hands and says, "thank you for your five years of work," smiles professionally, i laugh more professionally。
Out of the company door, standing at that cbd intersection, i counted it for the first time: 35 years old, with 18 years left on the mortgage, children in primary school, parents in their homes starting to walk downhill, holding cash for six months。
I didn't come home that afternoon, i sat in the car for two hours, i didn't cry, i just lost my mind。
It's not about being optimized, it's about, "35 years old, how am i going to live?"
I've been thinking about this for a whole week, and then i've been doing three moves that felt "unseemful."。
Three months later, i got a new offer, a 30% raise, a more stable track。
Today it's written down not to teach you the skills of finding a job, but to anyone who might be "optimal" for the next three or five years。
If that day comes, i hope you're soberer than i was。
First move: active pay cuts for stability
I was perfected on the third day, and i started throwing my resume。
Two weeks, about four interviews, three rejected me in the last round for the same reason:
"at your age, we're looking for a team of 20 people. " we have a limited budget for this post and employing young people is more expensive. "your experience is fine, but you're too expensive."
I understand the subtext: 35 years old, the biggest problem is not "capacity," it's "high."。
There's no shortage of people who can work. There's no shortage of people who can work。
I looked at myself in the mirror that night for 10 minutes and made a decision that i would never have been killed before..
Active pay cuts of 30 per cent to a smaller company with steady cash flows。
Not that i can't find a better one, but i figured out one thing:
35 years old, looking for a new job, not "pay," but "time."。
You rob 25-year-olds for 1. 5 times your salary, three times his experience, who the company chooses? Because he has 10 years for you, and you have only 5 years。
Since you can't spell horizontally, don't fight hard. Get on the other track。
I picked a medium-sized company in the same industry tob, and i volunteered to tell hr:
"i accept 70 per cent of the salary of your post in exchange for bringing a team in one year, and three years for the line of business."
Hr's eyes were bright, and i was asked two times that afternoon。
Look, 35-year-old advantage, not expensive, steady。
The company's willing to spend 70% of its money on a "no worry adult" more than 100% on a "three months of teaching potential share," which is much more cost-effective。
The moment you put your face down, the company was actually sneaking around。
This "seems to lose" concession essentially moved itself from the "selected" shelf to the "required" negotiating table。
The voluntary reduction was not recognition, but the purchase of a ticket for himself during the middle-aged crisis。
Second move: use the side business as a life-saving straw
I'm late for this。
If three years early, last year was optimized, i wouldn't panic to insomnia for two weeks。
It was only last year that i was optimized that month that i started thinking seriously about the side business。
For the first 10 years, i've been thinking, "the side business is part-time, and i don't have to do it properly."。
I didn't realize one thing until the night i was 35 was perfected
A 35-year-old with no side employment and a 35-year-old with three incomes, the mentality is completely different in the face of "optimised."。
The first one is "the sky falls" and the second one is "the family doesn't want me, i have two."。
I did three things:
First, make your last 10 years of professional experience into a $199。
Not how big it is to sell first。
I've got a PDF on the tabloids for 35+ 3 pipes for managers。
Seventeen sold in the first week, 36 sold in the second week, and now more than 800 sold, a cumulative realization of 16 million。
It's not a big number, but it's a big--
It made me realize for the first time that my experience is "prior" and that i don't depend on any company。
Second, make a small circle of the past。
I pulled 32 35+ mid-level executives, built a twitter community and shared it online every week。
No charge, just sharing. This group is now 380 people of high quality。
A brother in the group gave me a chance last month to get it directly。
You're good, you're human, you're invisible, you're critical。
And third, put the notes on the work done in the last five years into a column。
Three months of writing, 8000 powders, and one article that blew 300,000 readings。
You see? The side business didn't just start the day of optimization. It was five years ago when you squeezed one hour a day。
If you're 30, 32 and 34 now..
From today onwards, please take out five hours a week to do something that's valuable without relying on corporate platforms, on your own name。
Writing articles, doing lessons, consulting, doing accounts, doing community work, doing small tools... Anything。
Five years from now, you're not perfected。
35-year-olds think they can't catch 90% of those who can save their lives。
The third move: to volunteer the tips of those who despise you
The third move, the one that made me "real turn."。
One month after being optimized, i started doing one thing -- actively adding to those who didn't know what to believe。
Plus those who do better in the industry, have higher jobs than me, are younger than me, but "i didn't think i had to keep it."。
I'd like to know you。
It's the output, then the opening。
I write two industry observations a week, send my own public and knowledge。
When i saw someone who wrote well, i sent a personal article, along with a 100-word comment:
"xx, in general, saw your article last week, and the judgment on the xx part was very positive. I wrote a related one the other two days, and i'd like you to see if there's anything uncool about it
No one is asked to do anything, no one is asked to be pushed。
In three weeks, i sent 27 such private letters。
There's 18 left. There's six polite "thank you". There were three serious comments。
In three, one of them recommended me directly to their company。
Two months later, i got the company's offer。
Yours..
The 200 cvs i gave you were four interviews, and the "cool start" i gave you was one。
Most of the opportunities in the world are not on the "recruitment website", in the "who you know."。
And "who do you know?" it's not how many cards you draw, how many scenes you mix, but how many people you think you're worth to get back to。
When you're 35 years old, it's not "more effort," it's "more initiative to show yourself to people who deserve to know."。
35-year-old real watershed, not "not optimized," but "how do you live when optimized"
I want to tell you something。
Our generation beat workers for too long。
A person who feels that he or she has entered a large company and signed a labour contract is able to retire without making a major mistake。
In fact, after 35 years of age, big companies are high-risk areas。
It's high salary, but it doesn't feed; it's decent, but it doesn't save life。
It's never "the company's still there," it's "you can't live without the company."。
That's why i'd like to say three words to everyone over 30:
First, active pay cuts are not recognition, but the smartest ticket in the middle-aged crisis。
Instead of being 35 years old and trying to find a way to be good for yourself, you'd have to go to a small company with a steady cash flow at 33。
Steady, worth more than face。
Second, the part-time job is not part-time, but the second life after 35。
From this day on, five hours a week, something that's worth something that doesn't depend on a corporate platform。
Five years later, this five hours will save your life。
Thirdly, the arteries are not "maintenance" out, they're "output"。
Don't go "plus," go "writing"。
If you write something, someone will look for you; if you don't write it, you're lying in each other's address book and eating ash。
At the end
35 years of age are optimized, not the end of life, but the starting point for the first time in life to be "real self-directed"。
Before being optimized, you sell time to a company; after being optimized, you finally have time to think about it
How can i live without working for a company?
Think about it, you'll find that 35 years is not a crisis, is an opportunity。
It's the first chance for an ordinary person to really force himself to "go from beating a worker into one's own."。
Three moves for you:
(b) early capture, five years later it will save your life。
That's three things that sound like "down face."。
But you're careful -- that's three things. Which one isn't the best self-righteous in the adult world?
Real dignity is not a job, but a job, whether it exists or not。
That sentence, i'm putting it on my phone shell, looking at it every day。
My perfect afternoon, if someone had told me three things in advance, i would have at least two months less anxiety, three weeks less insomnia, five afternoons less in the car。
Too bad nobody told me。
So today i wrote it down for you。
Appendix: my 35-year-old who was perfected, and then fine, three friends, did what right
I was optimised by seven people who graduated at the same time。
Three years later, seven of us together again, the difference has been so big that it's silent..
(c) c, after having been influenced by me to start a side business, now 30 thousand a month for a side job, now a side job, taking the initiative to do its own business。
Your taste, 5 personal fate, 3 years, completely different。
It's not about who's better than who, it's about who's better than who。
A, put down the great factory halo, went to a small company that didn't sound so decent; c, put down the worker's identity and began to dominate the side business; d, put down the stranger's guard, offer credit, export, offer advice。
B, e, f, g didn't put it down, so they're all in circles。
After 35 years of age, what really saves you is not "the big factory experience" on the résumé。
Put it down and you'll live. You've got no choice。
My 87-year-old grandmother, with a very simple sentence, has the more reason i feel right now:
"o man, for the first half of his life, for the last half of his life. To be 35 and to be seen by others, to live for nothing."
Conspiracy。
Real dignity is not a job, but a job, whether it exists or not。
Conspiracy。
If it's a little useful, it'll be transferred to your friend who's been worried about the 35-year-old crisis lately。
