The letter between friends is not only expressed in mutual trust and trust, but also in the ability to be honest with one another and to be a friend in the face of each other's faults, shortcomings and mistakes。
What's a friend of yours? That is to say, friends should speak out, and they don't care. In the queen's book, it says: “a man has a friend, but he is not a witness.” that is the importance of emphasizing “a friend”. The value of friends lies in their high level of responsibility, their openness, their shortcomings, their mistakes and their promptness。
With regard to the shortcomings of a friend, “unrefutable, unsatisfied”, let alone abandon the principle of accommodating a friend in a way that does not harm his or her face. It is important that the wrongs of dealing with friends be properly addressed and stopped. Zilong asked his friend, "good advice and good deeds are not an end in themselves, nor self-defeating." that is to say, pointing out the shortcomings of a friend, who is doing his duty as a friend if he is concerned about the basis of caring for his friend。
Who's a saint? Since human beings could not be left alone, they needed to have a clear sense of what they were. When it is pointed out that it is “over”, it must be measured by “hearing the joy”, listening to the voices, being open to criticism and being willing to correct mistakes。
He said, “so it is not me who is the master, and it is me who is the master, and our friends, and it is us who are the thieves.” a person who can reasonably identify himself can be considered as a friend; a person who can reasonably identify his fault and advise him is not only a friend, but also a teacher. And those who know nothing but that they should greet themselves are nothing but thieves, and they are not worthy of friends. That is to say, it is a higher level of friendship, that is to say, what we often call the “friendship of the teacher”。
Since ancient times, examples of good friends have been common. In the early years of the east han, there was a great zhu dinhong, who was the best-spoken speaker at the “white tiger vision” conference organized by the emperor. In addition, his father, ting zheng, followed liu xiu in the battle, and, thanks to his efforts, he paid tribute to henan tai. When he was young, his father fought outside the country and dinghong and his younger brother lived with him. After his death, ting-hyun was seized as his eldest son, but he became emperor of the book, hoping that the baron would be given to his brother without authorization. After the burial of his father, dinhong took his filial steps to his grave. As a result, we met our friend baldwin. After learning about the situation, baldwin blames him for saying: “doesn't it seem wise to say that, under the terms of the spring and autumn, family matters cannot be abandoned? You have now cut off the foundation of your father's life by brotherhood?” dinhong has heard of him. So i went back for the seal and opened the door for the apprentice. It's called "dinhong jean-claude."。
Dinghong initially left the lord to his brother without the approval of the central government, leading to his further escape. In fact, he has acted in violation of both his filial duties to his father and his loyalty to the state. It was his best friend, baldwin, who was urged to do so in the name of the spring and autumn, that made him understand that and corrected his fault in a timely manner。
To point out mistakes to friends in a timely manner when their words and deeds are negligent is not a display of disrespect, but rather a courtesy of the sincere love of friends. True friends, who fear their interests and their futures from their hearts, are able to speak out and drink with their heads。
It is important to have a strong heart and a sense of tolerance for words. Without a “sliding” tone, the other side's “rebels” would be seen as scavengers, scavengers, not only as friends, but also as “shoes” to which they would be subjected, and even crowding out and hitting。
This is a good point. In 1964, field marshal chen yi wrote in his 63rd birthday statement:
It's rare for you to be critical in person。
And sometimes it is unbearable, and then it rages。
I'm sorry。
And so we worked together, and we were grateful。
In the open mind of the proletarian revolutionaries, the communists are harsh in their criticism and self-criticism, strutting on paper and making noise, and can only be disrespectful。
The old saying: faithful words are good. Friends will give you advice when you have the pleasure of the spring, and if you consider each other a friend, listen to him. It is not too late to think twice, even to find out that you were wrong. It is a privilege to have such a friend and should be valued。
While the role of friends is clear, we all know that it is not easy to be friends in real life. To be friends, mutual trust is particularly needed. If there is a lack of mutual trust among friends, friends ' advice is often misunderstood. In turn, in the absence of guarantees of mutual trust, persuasion is often ineffective. It's impossible. Sometimes friends are obsessed with certain ideas or practices, often the authorities are fascinated and we are bystanders are clear, but, unfortunately, the persuasion of others is often of little use。
Words, small enough to correct a person's fallacy, large enough to save a person. It is even more important for leadership cadres to listen. People often do not recognize themselves, but others do. There is no silence on your bright future, and the deviations from your feet are often silenced. Those who listen are glorified, especially when they are wrong, and it is too urgent to say so。
The way people think is limited by certain conditions, the solution of problems may not necessarily be well thought out, and many mistakes can be reduced by listening to the rhetoric and the crowd. Each one of us should have the heart of a “ship supporter in the belly” and listen to it in vain, make friends with one another, correct shortcomings and constantly improve his/her upbringing in order to make his/her own affairs work and be respected。
Excerpts from the chinese traditional eight-german interpretations — thong-de interpretations, published under the authority of the chinese publishing house fang zheng, copyrighted by the publisher and reproduced without authorization。
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