On 22 may, in a small district of shanghai, a housekeeper and the hostess engaged in a knife confrontation and the police came to the door. The news spread that the comment area was split directly into two parts — half of the people called the employer “the white eye” and half of the people said that the nanny was “overstepping”. Let's get back to the story。
The nanny worked in shanghai for six years with a mother-in-law and paid 10,000 a month. This wage is not low in the domestic sector, but it is definitely not easy. The child was raised from the age of the child - breast-feeding, sleeping, changing diapers, making complementary foods, teaching early in the morning, playing with her, taking her to the baby and walking around the child for 10 hours a day. Six years later, the child was closer to her mother than she was to bed at night。
The night of the incident, the child refused to let go of the tablet and was still painting the video while he was asleep. The nanny used to say, "don't look, it's time to go to sleep." it's probably the same tone as usual, but it's not very nice. The hostess blew up on the spot. You're a nanny. What do you have to do with my kids?" that's it. The nanny's in place。
She may not have thought that she had done so for six years and said so many times, this time suddenly becoming “unqualified”. The nanny tried to argue, "didn't she do the same before? You didn't say no." but the hostess didn't listen, the more excited she was, the more she went upstairs and threw all the babysitting's luggage out the window, and the next thing she said, "get the fuck out of here。
Six years. Over 2,000 days and nights. Ten hours a day. In exchange for scattered baggage, withheld wages and a “rolling” word. I'm afraid the mood of the nanny wasn't frustrated, it was collapsed. She ran into the kitchen and picked up a kitchen knife, not to the hostess, but to herself — she said, "don't die and get her salary back."。
The civilian police arrived at the scene, took the knife and took the man to mediation. No one's hurt, but the knife in your heart won't come out. But this is the worst thing, not who's right or wrong, but the kid。
He grew from a baby to an early school age and was accompanied by this nanny every day. In his heart, auntie may be closer than mom. Now, after a one-night fight, the aunt who accompanied him for six years disappeared. He would not understand any wage disputes, any disciplinary powers, but only that the person who put him to sleep was absent and had gone abruptly and uglyly. Do you think a housekeeper is qualified to discipline his employer's children
There is no standard answer to this question per se. Legally, nannies have no custody and the final decision to discipline the child rests with the parents. In human terms, however, a person who spends 10 hours a day with a child and has brought with her six consecutive years is not necessarily less emotional and responsible than her biological parents. When a child behaves inappropriately, should she turn a blind eye, or should she say, "don't look?"
If the hostess felt that the nanny was crossing the border, she would be able to communicate and set the rules. But it is not just the babysitting heart, but the child's sense of security that is hurt by withholding wages and throwing bags. After all, there are no winners in this conflict. The employer lost dignity, the nanny lost dignity and the child lost company. No one can score for those six years of day and night。
