Upon reaching puberty, the boy-girl relationship was overshadowed by a mysterious phenomenon that psychologically referred to it as a period of alienation, and psychoanalytic psychologist freud described the phenomenon of male-female interaction as a “silent period”。
You'll find that boys play with boys, girls play with girls, a bunch of boys play with a group of girls, and few boys play with a girl, or you'll talk about you two。
The “38th line” phenomenon of adolescent sexual relations
Upon entering secondary school, you will suddenly find that the best friends around you are no longer together as men and women, in a careless manner, and that there is an invisible distance between men and women, a separate camp between women and men, as if there were a line between them, which we call the “38 line”. This “3-8 line” separates men and women from each other, and a kind of alienation and rejection of the opposite sex instinct has led to the apathy of old close friends, even in learning, always at a distance and avoiding。
However, some of the classmates say in private that one of them goes home with the other, that one of them does not go out after the other, and whispers in the classroom and so on。
Gender identity of adolescent women and men
Here is a question of gender identity。
In the definition of psychology, gender identity refers to a person's gender identity, whether it is perceived as a sex of a man, a woman, or some non-traditional view, and may also be used to refer to the gender of an individual according to the gender roles they perceive (such as dress, hairstyle, etc.). When a person's gender identity is different from their physical characteristics, they may experience gender anxiety。
Our gender identity is influenced by a variety of social structures, including the family, schools, the mass media and the moral position of individuals, work, social status, faith (or lack thereof), etc. For example, male-style girls often prefer to play with boys or behave in a male way, while more subtle boys also identify with girls and end up with their “sisters”。
The phenomenon of “fake boy” and “smoky” in the identification of gender roles of women and men
Another phenomenon is the inclusion of “fake boys” and the denigration of “gang”。
If you had such a girl around, like a fake kid, you thought nothing, but you didn't think it was a problem。
If you had such a boy around you and he had some pussy, you'd feel a problem. Why do we always teach boys not to cry, to cry like girls, not to cry, not to express his feelings? We're demeaning to women, we're elevated to men, so if a girl is like a boy, you think that's acceptable。
Why
Because masculinity is what we advocate and is valuable in our society. This is a negative, negative and bad quality for women, so if a boy has a female character, our society has a slight downfall or rejection of him. It is also a judgement about gender roles, a judgement about gender, or a particular pattern of behaviour that actually expresses our values and expresses our standards, our judgments, our values and some perceptions of gender in our culture。
In recent years, because of the increased awareness of homosexuality among adolescent friends, many students have suspected or considered themselves homosexuals because of the problem of gender identity, yet it is not appropriate to make a hasty determination of homosexuality. Parents and teachers should explain the differences between homosexuality and gender identity to children in order to help them understand gender roles better。
