How to save the two who are still in love
He thinks he's not happy to talk to you。
Past experience has told him that if you talk too much, the end result must be unhappy, so don't start talking。
For example:
I don't think you're going to visit a store for the rest of your life if you're underestimating it。
The experience of talking to you in the past has provided him with the present judgment。
What's the result now
For a long time now, the intimacy that has been expressed in your daily communication has been far too painful。
In life, most people are very brave in expressing their pain。
Because all the pain is backed by desire, and part of it is fear。
In the face of this break-up, people are anxious, more anxious to express their pain and fear in order to get the other side to retract the break-up。
If the other party does not meet your needs, it will then develop into a mutual attack, a blow, a denial, a blame, and a gun and a stick between the two。
During the break-up, a lot of people used to talk, talk to each other, and then they got tired。
So, no matter what you say, the other side doesn't reply, or is afraid to go back to this mode of communication。
This argument is the same pattern of speech that gives him very negative feelings about your feelings。
Negative sentiment is the side that always makes things worse. Negative sentiment is used as the main reasoning, ignoring objective facts. As long as you show up, whatever you say, he'll think, "you're here to fight with me."。
At this point, he has had enough fighting, the negative emotions of the past have not digested, and now you want to give me more negative emotions, and he refuses。
People with negative feelings would choose to escape, to be pushed away, to be confronted with problems and with a sense of pre-eminence that they would not be able to solve them。
It is therefore normal for him not to respond to the negative sentiments and challenges that have not been digested in the past, on the one hand, and to the new and more difficult future, on the other。
On the other hand, for a long time now, all of you have been passing on negative and negative sentiments to each other, and would the situation have improved if they had been positive and positive
When you have good feelings and confidence to influence others, as your actions and thoughts become more active, you slowly acquire a sense of life。
This will multiply your confidence and your sense of purpose in life。
And then people will be attracted to you because people always like to deal with people who are positive and optimistic。
Learning to use “memotional consistency” to develop a positive relationship can also help the other side gain such positive sentiment, and slowly his attitude towards emotions can shift towards optimism。
If you can do this, the other side will feel that the future's feelings are more valuable, will be driven by you, and will give you a great reward。
Here i'll share you a way to convey positive emotions。
The rationale for conveying positive emotions is “consistent emotional transmission”。
In short, you laugh at others, others laugh at you, you care about others, others feel warm, you convey positive feelings to others and others feel positive feelings。
When positive emotions are transmitted, they can both defuse negative emotions and give him a positive attitude to emotions。
The transmission of positive sentiments must have been done through continuous communication, and relations can only be advanced if they are maintained。
But when faced with a break-up, people are always more emotional than rational。
No one was happy when they broke up, either with the break-up party or with the broken-up party。
That is why some people, when they break up, try something that they never did in the past, because he knows he's unhappy and wants to be happy again through new incentives。
This displeasure, the emotional experience that we are talking about, is a strong negative sentiment, a state of great mental incompetence。
In this state of affairs, the counterparty cannot afford more negative incentives and will not be interested in most matters, and if he is given any negative emotions, he will choose to avoid or escape。
The only way out of this situation is to transmit positive emotions, which can offset negative emotions。
When you can transmit positive emotions, you can naturally bring positive emotions to each other and make your emotional experiences better。
By communicating with you, the other side has returned to a happy state, and the problem of negative emotions has naturally been solved, and relations have been successfully advanced and compounded。
Of course, some would ask, why did i pass on a positive sentiment, or did i not react
This means that the positive sentiment that you are conveying is not enough and has not materialized for the time being。
Some people have more negative emotions, and it takes longer to recede, so you need more patience to convey positive emotions。
The way to make a relationship from bad to good is very simple, depending on whether you can stay the course。
If you can insist, there's a high probability of success if you have the right approach。
That's all, happy。
If you have any confusion, or think that my article is not clear enough, i would welcome you to come to me with a story, and i can give you 30 minutes of free analysis to thank you. You are also welcome to read patiently, i have written 750 original articles。
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Spoken: muyanlove1
Psychologist, marriage emotional counselor
Over 1,000 cases and over 5,000 hours of consultation
Focus on: marriage, emotion
Good at:
Breakup recovery, marriage restoration, second marriage, divorce, divorce, emotional confusion
