Why didn't you send a message to your predecessor
Most of the couples who break up often have a relationship that is cold or totally unrelated。
Such a situation makes you anxious to save your predecessor: how can we re-establish contact? What if i send a message without responding
Since there is no chance to speak, how can other remedial actions be undertaken
Therefore, you try to impress each other by expressing love, hoping that they will once again be moved to you, hoping that they will change attitudes and ideas. However, you find the other side indifferent to this, indifferent and even further away from you。
For example, assuming you sent 10 sentences of repentance, apologies and pleas to tell the other side how much you loved him, but the other side did not respond
As an example, assuming that you have taken a serious look at this emotional issue, it has taken a long time to reflect and to communicate well with each other. However, you found each other not even answering your calls。
Why won't you answer? You've done a lot of work
It is only when he loves you that your love and affection make sense and worth it. But when his negative emotions erupt, not only will your love and emotion be useless, but it will also bore and bother him。
When we love someone, even when the other side has a weakness, we turn a blind eye and even see the disadvantage as an advantage. But when we hate someone, the better we are, the more we hate him。
When we like someone, we always want him to live; when we hate someone, we always want him to disappear。
This is a psychological contradiction that humans often experience and a problem that often confronts couples。
After the break-up, the other will be released from his emotions and his attitude and position towards you are rational. At this point, the other party is actually assessing your value。
In other words, it depends on what value you can bring to him。
What you need to do is show your worth and re-establish confidence and a way of living in this process。
In communication, how to demonstrate your value to each other is one of the keys to success. (how can we quickly fix things with our predecessors at the right time
02 what kind of message is more likely to be answered by the predecessor
For example:
After a break-up, i wanted to be with my boyfriend again。
Ideally, even if they break up, the parties retain their means of communication。
So she began to say hello three times a day — good morning, good noon, good evening, uninterrupted. Did you eat? Did you sleep? What are you doing
Of course, there was no response。
Why
As stated earlier, you have ended your relationship, and the other side has a strong negative feeling about you, which can be said to be somewhat averse. You didn't pay attention to disturbing him in due course, causing him to be troubled and unhappy。
It makes no sense. It only makes you feel a little better。
Of course, communication is necessary, but only effective communication can serve the purpose of conveying values。
In her consultations, she gave us information on both sides: they were professionals in the financial sector。
It was also during the epidemic that stock movements were very volatile. Therefore, we can use the intersections and the interests of each other as an entry point for initiating dialogue. We can use the effective information at our disposal to exchange resources, to direct attention to what we want to talk about, to communicate and to communicate。
Following the adoption of the opinion, the effect was clear: the other side had shown a more positive attitude in the exchange, the atmosphere of communication between the two had clearly improved, and the other side had even taken the initiative to launch the topic, successfully breaking the deadlock。
In an effort to salvage feelings, it is not recommended that the link be completely severed. While many know that, knowledge does not mean that it can be done correctly。
“although i know the connection cannot be cut off, i do not know what to say, so i can only send some useless greetings, such as good morning, good afternoon, good night and so on. Although i know i don't get a response most of the time, i can't wait to cut him off.”
Therefore, in communicating, serious thought must be given to how to find effective entry points and what value you can bring to each other. If the subject raised has no meaning or value for the other party, do not say so。
When launching the topic, one could consider each other's mindset and find common themes for communication。
Note: if you're afraid you're not doing well, or if you've been thinking for a long time and you can't figure out a solution, you can talk to me for help。
There's no need to deny the value of your predecessor's apathy
There's another problem。
Many, when looking for their own value, often suffer from a degree of miscalculation, are unable to locate themselves with great accuracy and are unable to identify value relationships with others。
How do you find this value
Knowing yourself is important。
(1) knowledge of their own processes helps to re-establish social relationships and enhances self-confidence, not only raising the probability of successful recovery, but also making greater progress in interpersonal relations。
(2) knowledge of oneself means greater understanding of one's own self by looking back at the past's experiences and behaviour at different stages of age and identifying what one really needs。
(3) to properly evaluate oneself, neither to be too downplayed nor overestimated, to identify the current situation, to accept itself and to reshape its values。
A successful recovery process is a process of growth。
Too often, the driving force of the moment comes from the desire of the heart, and the recovery is a manifestation of that motivation。
This experience will inspire you to grow and make you self-restraint, move away from procrastination, gain a strong inner momentum and resilience, help you to emerge from anxiety and fear, build self-confidence and strengthen your heart。
It's only through this growth that the other side will have a new understanding and will be able to save you from that loss and get back on your feet。
Please don't think you can't change yourself。
After encountering some difficulties, the choice was to give up on the grounds that i did not feel fit to proceed。
You're just pretending to work hard. How can you change your qualifications
In seeking value, we also need to know ourselves and be brave to change ourselves, which is an indispensable step in the recovery process。
If you can't figure out how you're feeling, how you're going to change the rhythm and direction, you can leave a message at the bottom of the paper, and i can communicate with you, and i'll help you find a way. # recover your feelings #
