Friends, you have to understand that it's a very normal situation for the other party not to reply to the message after the break-up, and if the other party has been responding to the information frequently since the break-up, it's an abnormal condition. And how you interact with each other in the recovery process is not as important as you think。
In particular, there are those who believe that there are many faults that need to be corrected constantly, that they need to talk to each other in order to change each other’s minds, or that they feel that they talk to each other every day, that they become accustomed, and that slowly they can ease their relationship。
It's a big mistake, actually, when we broke up, it was the most gruesome way to fix our feelings, because they had nothing to do with each other, and they were not obliged to interact with you, but because you were eager to make your impression worse。
At this point, of course, a lot of fixers are constantly emphasizing the basis of their relationship with each other, and i can understand the mood you're trying to recover, but the idea is problematic: the fact that you've been in love with each other, but being able to break up means that things are bad, that there are many problems and contradictions, that being able to break up means that she feels that your feelings are failing, that you don't deserve her to keep wasting time, and that the foundation of her relationship has already collapsed。
So you have to understand that the fact that you're not answering your message after a break-up or that you don't want to interact with you is a very normal situation, which certainly doesn't affect your recovery。
First of all, let us think about the reasons why the other side is reluctant to respond to your message. There are two possibilities:
1. The message you sent caused considerable mental stress or negative emotions。
2. The other party has no interest in the message you have sent and no value whatsoever。
Let us start with the first possibility that the vast majority of people, after breaking up, will keep calling each other, and that constant information bombing will cause great distress and stress to the other, and will become even more negative。
It's very bad to just end a painful relationship with you at a time when your constant information harassment pulls each other into your painful memories, and your emotions become even more negative, and they only want to escape from you and your feelings, and then they turn a blind eye to your news, and they even take you away from you。
Secondly, let us say again the second possibility, that your message is of no interest to each other. Once again, it is of no value to the other party to stop believing that it has a deep relationship with the other party and to try to remember the past。
And the current focus of each other's attention is: have you changed since the break-up? Is the conflict that led to your break-up resolved
So if you did not make a real change after the break-up, but merely made an apology promise, then it is recommended that you do not rush back because it has no value for your feelings。
So how do we get the ex back right? The answer is simple: first of all, to find out the root causes of your break-up, which, it is worth noting, is not the cause of break-up。
A simple resolution of the fuse does not help。
For example, if you break up because you complain about your game, and you think you're making it, and you're having a big fight, in this case, playing is just a superficial trigger, and the underlying reason for breaking up is not taking into account each other's feelings, which is self-induced。
Many people are always trying to fix the trigger without really addressing the root causes, and then rushing to contact their predecessors to get back to them, to be very disappointed that you still don’t understand why you broke up。
So when the real reasons for breaking up with each other are really clear and change, you can try to pass on a change of message with the other, you can try to communicate with each other through mutual friends and, of course, by yourself。
It is worth noting, however, that at this critical juncture, do not rush to salvage each other, and it is best to maintain a simple exchange of information, wait for the other party to see and understand your change and be willing to come out and meet with you and re-establish relations with each other, so that they can come back to each other and get back together。
So, in the process of recovery, it is not as useful or as important to send information more often。
So it is normal for the other party to be reluctant to reply to the news, and if it finds out the real reason for breaking up with each other and solves the problem, and effectively conveys the changed message to the other party, the other party will return to you to a great extent。
That, i hope, will help you。
The authorities were fascinated and the bystanders were clear that they could effectively avoid problems if they were able to determine precisely the behaviour and state of two people。
I hope you reap love and sweetness. I'm a low profile and professional emotional counselor。
Look at me, without the emotional problems i can't analyze! It's not easy. Thank you for your support
