What's the worst thing to worry about when you break up? It's not the other side that blacks you out, deletes you, or rejects you, but you keep your contact, but you send the other side a message, and she doesn't reply。
The least you can do is know you're angry, but you don't delete it, you don't answer your message, you don't know why。
Today, teachers will analyze how to deal with break-ups and the other side will not answer the message。
An analysis of the reasons why the other party did not reply. 1. The existence of short negative sentiments
When we broke up, they had some negative feelings for you, and they didn't want to accept you. But you didn't take it personally, so it was meant to hurt you。
2. The accumulation of contradictions is slowly disappointing
You may have been together for a long time, during which there have been many contradictions between you that have not been resolved in a timely manner and, lastly, in a series of disappointments, she no longer hopes in your feelings. Although you did not delete the contact, she no longer expects you. When you sent her a message, she had no problem with it at all because it was too late for her to believe what you said。
What are you gonna do
Because of an instinctive reaction, i don't want to have too much reaction from you. Maybe you're not interested, or you're putting a lot of pressure on her。
Usually in the emotional complexes that i've been through, the other party's failure to respond to your message is likely to be one of the reasons. If you want the other side to come back and reconnect, you'll have a hard time getting back together。
If you also face a break-up, the other side doesn't answer your message, you don't know what to do, you can click on the bottom. Add a teacher, i'll analyze your emotional situation and turn it around。
So to keep your feelings, we have to deal with this first。
I. Elimination of negotiates 1 and change the texts
After a break-up, women often have the impression that men:
"he's still so childish."
"he must have not changed."
"how many times have i said it will never change."
I'm sorry
It is normal for a woman to have such an idea in the first place, which is actually a stereotype. Psychologically, it means that individuals are influenced by society, thus maintaining a stable view of certain people and certain things. If it is negative, it can change perceptions and thereby ignore individual differences and influence the assessment of others。
She knows you well enough, based on your previous relationship, so she has some prejudice and misunderstandings about you. Simply put, she doesn't trust you anymore, so she doesn't want too much contact with you。
Imagine a man who hurt you many times and now comes back to you and tells you that she didn't mean to hurt you
The best way to do this is not to go to each other for a while, so they can calm themselves for a while. This period is then used to make changes. Try not to keep talking about each other, but to act。
2. Changing inherent minds
Because of some stereotypes about you, there may be some inherent negative comments about you:
You're worried about her, maybe you're being kind; you're trying to communicate, maybe she thinks you're looking for trouble; you've changed, maybe she thinks you're drawing pancakes。
It's an inherent pattern of thinking, but it's fast enough to go, and once there's a basis for judging you, there's a perception that he's really a man who talks nonsense。
In order to dispel that impression, it was necessary to learn to do the opposite, to prejudic and reverse the reality, and to trigger her backward thinking. It can start at this point:
Ii. Prudent handling of contradictions
There must be a contradiction between two people together, so if you want to get back together, you need to learn to deal with your conflict。
1. Repetition
You can look back at your whole relationship, especially when you broke up, and analyze the reasons for your relationship problems:
If you want to get back together, but you don't know what to do, you can get a teacher to do a simple analysis, and i'll get back to you in time to find out what's wrong with you and turn things around。
2. Self-reflection
After the first phase of review and re-examination, you have already had a preliminary judgement and analysis of each other's feelings。
This is when you think about your problems and make your own change plans。
You can think about yourself through these:
After the break-up, it records every thought and awareness and your change. The diary can record many of your instantaneous thoughts, as well as the process of discovering your own thoughts and changing them. If the other side questions your change in the future, that's your best evidence, so if you want to get back together, do it。
As for the results of the reflection, you can tell the other side of the story. So you can pass on this change by writing a break-up letter。
Type i: breakup + core conflict + change + truth please
Last time i didn't answer your message in time, i didn't mean to, i was a little busy, really ignored your feelings (the core contradiction), and i'll have time to come to you in time (to make a change), so let's try again and give each other a chance。
Type i: breakup + core contrast + apologize + sincere blessing
Last time i went to your house and didn't take care of this, the main problem was that i didn't think too much, that i was negligent, that you were so concerned and angry, and i'm really sorry that it was too late, and i didn't want to be reluctant to hope that you could be happy in the future。
When you do what you do above, you basically see the problems between you, but the core contradictions cannot be solved directly. It is only through communication that you can resolve your problems。
Depending on the actual situation, you can begin to prepare for other things: external changes, internal changes, positive living conditions, etc., as to what should be done, depending on the actual situation。
Iii. Building comfortable communication
After the preparation of the previous stages, your relationship has been eased. At least you wouldn't hate you as much as you used to, and maybe you could keep up good communication. Now you can try and talk about comforting things:
The other side's hobby: "have you seen the ensemble you love recently?"
"do you remember the cat we had last time?"
"do you know she's getting married, you going?"
These topics do not express their purpose and ideas directly, and there is no doubt that communication between you will be smoother。
At this point, you can make some bolder attempts to reach out to each other。
1. Weaknesses in due course
Women prefer men with masculinity, but sometimes proper signs of weakness weaken women. It can be expressed in these ways。
“recently, the work has been too busy and working overtime. I did a lot of things to hurt you after i broke up, and i didn't think about your feelings, and i'm really sorry that i wanted you to be good, and if you weren't busy, would you have time to eat this week?"
First of all, you're just expressing your feelings, not attacking and accusing each other. Secondly, there is no statement of purpose, but a simple talk about recent life; finally, an invitation is an apology. Girls don't usually say no. If you really refuse, you can go through other ways。
2. Create a comfortable chat environment
The most important thing when talking is comfort and comfort. If you want each other to like you, you have to try to create a comfortable chat。
Retention is not a relationship, so it's better not to be as direct as a time of love. It is possible to express inner thoughts in some subtle and ambiguous way. It's just a feeling of obfuscation, a feeling of constant disillusionment。
Comfortable is based on a commonality of effort, where you can think from each other's perspective and be understanding each other, so you have to be right when you talk to each other and talk to each other。
Women are very focused on detail, and we can hit each other in the innermost parts of the world in many cases by unexpected moves. The details determine success or failure, and maybe what you don't care about is exactly what the other side cares about. So don't slacken at any point and do your best to give each other the most comfortable experiences and feelings。
It's a very important thing to talk to each other, and it's a lot of times that you just decide whether you can get back together, so if you want to get back together, you have to learn how to talk to each other and take the initiative. Now add a teacher, and i'll do a full analysis and teach you some practical chat skills。
Sometimes what women want is your sincere attitude and change. You will not be afraid or afraid only if you really reflect on your feelings and adjust your patterns of coexistence in the final confrontation. So the retention of the predecessor was never a favor, but a return to a more attractive person。
The essence of love is attraction. When you get better, you attract better people. If you ask if there's a technique? Yes. But all the techniques and methods are for a moment, not very old. What really holds true is a sincere and firm choice。
