I was impressed by my friend's “just” visit to the wine table last week。
At the restaurant, the partner wang, by virtue of his status, forced the payment period in the contract to be extended from 30 days to 90 days, and was also joking, saying, "how about this cash flow in your small company?"
Before that, zhou must have laughed, but this time he dropped his chopsticks and looked directly at wang general: “mr. Wang, 30 days is a bargain between the two sides, and now you're talking about it, not `less money', but `no respect for the contract'. Either follow the original contract or i prefer not to do it.”
The whole thing was quiet, and wang was in shock for two seconds, and suddenly he smiled: "all right, old zhou, go for you, 30 days."
After the break-up, zhou said to me, “i used to be afraid of sinners, and now i realize that if you have the guts to fight anyone, and you have the guts to talk to anyone, the human relationship goes well, and there's half the trouble.”
The nature of human relationships
We were taught to “grace and value”, so many people understood human relations as “emotional exchange”: i'm good to you, you're good to me; i'm back, you're taking a step。
But the reality is that emotions are often as thin as paper in the interest; power is in the game, and it is hard currency。
Readers, kit, used to be the company's “good old man” and his colleagues threw him down and led him down, always thinking, “be close, do good later”. And
The essence of human relations is a game of power: you have a bottom line, others do not dare to trample; you have a edge, others take your claims seriously; you have the courage to “brave” and others take them for granted。
"behaved" is not "black."
When one listens to “hand over anyone”, one thinks that it is “unjustifiably” “justly”。
Not really。
It is a principle and a position to defend itself, to say no when it is violated。
The example of neighbor zhang is typical。
She retired as a volunteer in the community and was responsible for registering for old age activities. One of the relatives of director lee, who wanted to step in and report to a popular calligraphy class, zhang didn't show her face: "registration is done first, everyone is in line, and i can't make an exception."
Director lee didn't look good at the scene, and said, "how can you be so rigid?"
Zhang smiled back: "chief, if i was flexible, the team would be messed up, and there would be no trust in the community."
Later, director li did not make her look good, but no one dared to “take the back door” with her。
Zhang said, "i don't want to get in the way of anyone, i'm keeping the rules. The more reason you have, the less people dare bother you."
At the heart of the "scarce" is "a border":
Such a “hard spirit” would instead win respect and make relations simple. Because they know you're not a soft tomato. You can't squeeze it。
If you don't, it's the "free passage."
A lot of people are afraid of "breathing" and it hurts. But in fact, it's the people who don't dare to talk about it that accumulates more and more "black thorns":
And those who dare to say it, put it on the table, can say it's "dry to dry":
If you don't hold back, if you don't cross the border, the relationship will be fine; if you make a sound, the other side knows what's important, cooperation will be stable。
At the end
As long as you have the balls, you have the guts to fuck with anyone, and you have the will to fuck with anyone, your human relations will be free and free。
Because of the nature of human relationships, it is never an exchange of emotions, but a game of power。
If you have the strength to defend yourself, others will respect you; if you have the courage to defend your borders, others will hold you in check。
May we all be: not being “old and good” and being “brainy”. In the game of relationships, hold the line, win respect and live happily ever after。
