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The results of this year's mid- and high-level examinations have been announced throughout the country, and recent admission notices have been issued, and some candidates have experienced a significant decline in their mental state from the high stress of the examination to the sudden laxity of the leave period, and in their living conditions, and may experience greater psychological ups and downs in a range of stresses, such as waiting points and voluntary admissions. Last week, girls from the middle school in the field came to foshan to visit their mothers and were recovered, causing social concern. Sheep night reporters analyse the objective treatment of grades and admissions from the multidimensional perspective of candidates, parents and experts, and adjust the mental state of the examination to the new stage of life in a normal mindset。
Positive action to find bright directions
Mr. Hu, he's a senior student from the previous year. “i had chosen the examination, and the examination school had two choices: one was a public school and the other was a private school.” hu said to the journalist that he had chosen to run a public school, but that he had not been split enough and had been brushed down. It was a complicated mood to see other classmates receiving admission notices while they felt helpless and frustrated and seemed desperate。
After double-checking, he chose to repeat his reading in a very low mood. “during vacation, my friends went out and i went to school alone, feeling like i was marginalized. Together with the constant questioning of family and friends, it was felt then that life was dark and wanted to escape reality, but that it had to face uncertainty about the future.”
“it is a good thing that a good friend is with me, that we encourage and support each other, and that with each other i have barely survived.” after a period of struggle and pressure, hu gradually emerged from the difficult situation and successfully accepted a private college for the second post。
"at first, i felt so hard, i felt so hopeless. While watching my peers enjoy university life, i am confined to the triviality of repeating my studies. And when i passed the time of re-reading, it was because i was one more than my peers, and it was a re-reading torment that made my heart feel good. Over time, i have gradually found ways to change myself by actively participating in community activities in schools and becoming the head of the university. These experiences have taught me that even in the low valleys, positive action can lead to light.”
After the university, hu interacted with different people through active participation in events organized by associations. “as a result of my continuous engagement, i have found new directions and goals in life, and i have gradually emerged from the shadow of the failure of the high examination.”
Reconciliate with yourself and children
What should a parent face as a child with unsatisfactory grades in advanced examinations? In recent days, ms. Lee, a parent from shenzhen (alias), has been unable to hide her disappointment and has written in a community of micro-credit friends that he can only “reconciliate with himself”。
“for more than 10 years, when the blind box was actually opened, it felt like it was mine again, and life was indescribable.” ms. Lee said that, despite the fact that the child had reached the end of his or her mind, after three months of one-on-one and one-on-one private religion, the outcome had not been satisfactory。
In ms. Lee's view, over the years, the children have been wearing the halo of the 100 outer secondary school (the lily foreign language school in shenzhen city), the shenzhen secondary school, the rain-fed delivery of the parents' wind, together with “out-of-school training” from primary school to high school, “a serious blow to the face of today's high examination”. Parents recalled that the child had said that one day parents would be proud of him. Being a parent, let alone disappointed, can only comfort the child。
“after all, we are our children, and before him we hide our emotions and reconcile ourselves. It's really hard to be a parent."
In response, a number of parents have questioned the above-mentioned mindsets and ideas, either that they do not respect their children as an independent individual or that the education of children is considered an investment。
One parent said, "my child has nine years to go to college, and it's good to have a book." another parent, whose daughter was admitted to the five-year clinical medicine system of the university of nakayama this year, was not satisfied with this achievement, and the mother considered that the daughter was fully capable of entering a better school and that the daughter was opposed to repeating it, and was not well-intentioned? She was worried about how she could persuade her daughter to return to school for a year and hit “the return of qingbei”。
The daughter indicated that she was not willing to waste a year of youth and learn something that would be of little benefit to society in the future. More importantly, having accepted the reality and hoping to continue to live well, he had accepted the results and the results of his admissions and was ready for university life. In her view, the mother wished to read for another year simply because of her own discomfort, so that even if she accepted a repetition, she would remain angry and difficult to study for。
The student should be relaxed after the exam
The deputy director of the psychiatric section of the foshan medical association and the chief of the mental health section of the three water district people's hospital, leung wanyi, believe that life is regular and that normal eating sleep and healthy lifestyles are maintained. Do not break your biological clock as much as possible. Some interesting recreational activities and sports such as swimming, running, playing football, playing basketball, watching movies, tourism, etc. Participation in social practice, volunteer work, volunteer work, etc., and some meaningful activities of public interest. You can also learn driving, music, cooking, etc。
The director of psychopsychiatry and chief of precautionary prevention, chen jingxia, at the zhengxing hospital in fushan, suggested two scenarios for “excessive relaxation”: one is a long period of excessive play. It is regrettable that, five days in a row, after an examination in one place, he played at the internet cafe, where he was overexcited for a long period of time, leading to sudden death from heart disease. The examinations are overexhaustible, with continuous internet entertainment, day and night, and can result in over-exploitation of the body, damage to health and disease。
Two is bad play. In one place, one of the candidates was very happy to have finished his exams, went out to drink at night with a few of his classmates, drank and drove on motorcycles, then accidentally hit a passing pedestrian seriously, and was severely punished, and his studies and life were affected, and the students and parents who had committed the crime were repulsive. In both cases, there were serious consequences as a result of over-execution. Therefore, parents should alert and monitor the child to control the time of post-test play while avoiding poor laxity and planning and preparing for the upcoming new learning life。
Expert recommendations
How can a child's mental disability or child be detected in advance
The results vary from year to year from mid-level to high-level examinations, and some candidates experience emotional and behavioural anomalies, such as depression, anxiety, anger, refusal to communicate with others, etc. The following performances require the attention and attention of parents. It is important to detect the abnormal psychological state of the candidates at an early stage and to help the child adjust in a timely manner so as not to cause greater psychological problems。
Liang wan yi argues that when parents find their children feeling lost, guilty, or even humbled; when they take the exams, they feel uncertain and regret that they have wasted their good time; when they feel sorry for their parents, teachers, etc., they fail to live up to their expectations; when they feel useless; when they feel useless; when they play all night, play all night, play all night, turn around, and have an unbalanced diet; when they fear that they will not be able to go to an ideal university every day, they are in a state of panic, emotional instability, depression, and even some signs of physical discomfort。
According to chen jingjia, the results of the examinations were unsatisfactory, and some of the candidates had long periods of depression, refusal to communicate, insomnia, and the appearance of light words and actions. Some of the candidates are overly worried about the future, anxious about it, confused about the future, unable to find direction and goals, and affected to varying degrees in their daily lives. On the contrary, some of the candidates whose results were unexpectedly high were overly emotional, unbridled, self-inflicted, “retributive” carnivals, overconsumption, etc., and vulnerable to physical impairment and even to adverse habits。
What are the means to channel and regulate when there are psychological disorders
“when a child is in a bad mood, parents are concerned with the child's words and actions and the feelings of his or her heart and are actively guided.” liang wan yi indicated that if the child had psychological problems before and after the mid-level examination, even some negative comments were made. Parents must take care of the negative language, whether it is intentional or unintentional, by accompanying their children and enhancing psychological guidance. If negative feelings, such as anxiety, depression, and negative thinking and thinking are detected, the child should be contacted in a timely manner or encouraged to call the psychological assistance hotline. If the depression is severe and cannot last for several days, it is serious insomnia and negative, and parents are advised to bring their children to a professional psycho-psychological clinic as soon as possible and to seek professional help in order to avoid a false illness。
Chen jingjia proposes four solutions:
1. Parents ' own mental state must be stable and their child's mental state must be looked after, but should not be over-involved in order to raise problems that increase the child's anxiety. 2. Multiple understanding of admissions, and the child's own stress is inevitable in the face of a failure to meet the expected test results. Parents must also learn to keep their distance if the child has shown resistance to disproportionate caring. 3. To try to share ideas with each other and explore future planning, such as discussing holiday arrangements, voluntary options, future planning, etc. Helps children to divert their attention from anxiety and depression. If the emotional and behavioural behaviour of the candidates is clearly abnormal, it is impossible to regulate themselves or even has an impact on normal life, it requires timely counselling and treatment in specialized psychiatric institutions。
What is the different focus on the psychological dynamics of the different stages
Chen jingxi and liang wan yi both believe:
Post-testing: the main concern is anxiety. Candidates often experience anxiety, stress and anxiety while waiting for the results to be announced. Parents may be accompanied and at the same time appease the anxiety of the child。
2. After the announcement of the scores, children with significant differences in their performance in the light of the poor performance of the examinations will experience emotional breakdown and parents will have to be careful of their safety. Helps children to face the reality, to remain responsive and to adapt. Encouraging children to enter the baccalaureate is not the only way to go, and the road leads to rome, as long as continuous efforts are made to reach a successful destination。
3. Voluntary filing: parents should give the child full autonomy and decision-making power, as well as emotional support. Parents and children disagree. Before volunteering, parents are advised to become familiar with the policy, to gather relevant information, to consult with their children based on their achievements, to consider issues from a child's perspective, to know what they like and to respect the views of the child and to reach a consensus with the child。
4. After admission: parents should give sufficient encouragement and appreciation to the children who pass for an ideal university; parents need more understanding and support for children who do not pass for an ideal university and should not be too hard on their children。
Preparation for a new school, leaving the parents, may lead to an anxiety of separation. Parents should use their vacation time to exercise their children's independence, encourage them to interact with others, to communicate with their peers, or to engage in meaningful activities of public interest in preparation for a new environment。
