Homosexual. Is love related to sex
Family doctor online 2017. 05. 0813:26
What does love have to do with sex? If so, why is there love between the sexes? If not, why are some people so resistant to falling in love with people of the same sex? It seems that the relationship between gender and love is not simple。
When we've had a relationship, we know more or less what love is like, what same-sex lovers say about love, and what heterosexual lovers say. Well, maybe the problem is gender。
Ask a man, "are you a man or a woman?"
The answers can be a lot, "i was born a man/woman." "because i have a female sexual organ." "because i am a woman."
Most people are able to identify with their own gender without hesitation, but a few are unable, not because they do not have gender-specific organs, but because of other factors. Are there people who are neither men nor women? It seems that the matter of gender is not simple。
To understand the mystery of gender, it can be done through the concepts of sexual identity, gender, gender roles, sexual attraction。
Sexual identity
Sexual identity is recognized and confirmed on the basis of the appearance of the sexual organ at birth. For example, boys have penises, girls have no penises. But there are exceptions:
A “girl” with no penis at birth but with xy chromosomes, and a male sexual identity。
Regardless of whether the child's genetic sex is male (sex chromosome xy) or female (sex chromosome xx), the sexual identity of the man is acquired by the parents as long as he is brought up as a boy; if he is raised as a girl, the sexual identity of the woman。
Gender
Gender refers to differences between individuals of the opposite sex. Differences arise from the three dimensions of sex, psychology and gender. Thus, a person's sex cannot be determined by sex。
A few examples:
One, a boy born with no penis and raised as a girl with an xy chromosome on his body, but “he” has a feminized mind and long hair in front of others, playing with girls, playing with a woman and not knowing that he is an xy chromosome. In this case, the “her” biological sex is male, the psychological sex is female and the gender is female。
2. A man who is not biologically different from other men, whose mind, perception, emotion is feminized, and at this point in time his external dress is still male and his social contacts are performed in a male capacity. In this case, the “he” biological sex is male, the psychological sex is female and the gender is male。
3. The man above decided to wear a woman's dress, to wear a woman's dress and lifestyle, to conceal physical features, to make it look like a woman, and to start dating as a woman. In this case, the “he” biological sex is male, the psychological sex is female and the gender is female。
4. The above-mentioned man performed transsexual surgery, dressed in feminized clothes, lifestyle and started to interact with people as a woman. In this case, the “he” biological sex is male, the psychological sex is female and the gender is female。
Gender roles
In a few of the above examples, only one of them identifies with his/her sexual identity without knowing his/her true biological sex, while the rest, two, three or four, does not。
Once an individual has recognized his or her sexual identity, people begin to domesticate and construct a sexual role for him or her, for example, by being self-empowering and being gentle with his or her daughter. The construction of gender roles, often based on sexual identity, is the result of sociocultural construction。
In the age of manual labour, for example, men must be strong against stones, otherwise they will not be able to carry stones, earn money and meet the requirements of the “male power society” for “men”. Women take care of their children at home and speak to them with a certain degree of tenderness, so that, over time, gender roles such as “women need to be gentle” are stereotyped。
In fact, men have a soft side and women have a strong side. At the kindergarten level, there are no significant differences between boys and girls, nor do kindergarten aunts demand that boys do what they do and girls do what they do. However, at the middle school stage, boys practiced dumb bells and girls lost weight. A boy dressed as a hero, a girl dressed as a gentle girl. In an effort to meet the social and cultural gender role criteria, boys were depressed and girls were depressed。
Sexual attraction
When you're in love, people feel like you've found the other half of life. “the other half”, it's not just the discovery of a foreign lover, it's the self-discovery of a human being who has been depressed for so long. The stronger the boy, the more he suppresses the tenderness, the more he likes her. In fact, it is not only love for an external opposite sex, but it is also love that enables the manifestation and development of one's repressed humanity。
The psychokinetic source of love, from a biological point of view, is the “heterosexual insinuation, biological law”, driven by sexual hormones. From freud's point of view, love is the depression, the retreat, my narcissism and my projectivism; from a humanistic point of view, it is the self-realization of humanity; from a post-modern perspective, love is neither a depression nor a self-fulfilling potential; it can be a construction, a human enrichment and development。
The two people we love, we can see that there are similarities and differences. Among them, similarity leads to trust, giving them a common emotion and ideal and the ability to interact with each other; it gives them a sense of mutual attraction and envy for each other's personality characteristics, which they do not have and which they desire. People always want what they do not have (personal characteristics)。
Gay and heterosexual
“hitogeneity” means the attraction caused by these gender differences between individuals of the opposite sex, or psychological attraction caused by differences between individuals of the opposite sex. Among them, a distinction can be drawn between “physiological heterogeneity” (biological law) and “psychological and social” abuse. When sexual attraction is based on physical sex, a distinction is made between homosexuality and heterosexuality. More sexual attraction patterns can be derived if “differentiation leads to attraction” at the psychological and social levels (dimensional dimensions)。
“the heterosexual inhalation”, “the homosexual retardation”
“different attraction” consistent with the gender of the body is called “the heterosexual attraction”, i. E. Sexual attraction between men and women. If the body is of the same sex, there is a psychological attraction between the two persons, accompanied by sexual excitement, called “homosexual”. Homosexuality is the attraction of the sexual, emotional or fantasy that occurs between individuals of the same sex without a change in their mental gender. This must be accompanied by psychological “discretional attraction”。
If the two persons are physically homosexual, but one of them is psychologically opposite, then the sexual attraction between them is still, physically speaking, “homosexual attraction”, but psychologically they are “homosexual opposites”, so this is not “homosexual”。
In the past, sexual identity and the psychological formation of gender roles were always based on external genital sex. This has led to concepts and classifications such as “heterosexual” and “homosexual”. According to the rationale of “discrepancies lead to attraction”, sexual attraction between persons of the same sex must have been triggered by differences in their psychological dimensions, although their bodies are homogeneous, but, at the psychological level, gentle prefers to be strong, inward prefers to be outward ..
Even heterosexuals, in addition to the sexual attraction caused by gender differences in sexual organs, have many psychological dimensions of “attractiveness” and have developed complementary combinations (matching) of personality characteristics, such as sane and emotional, independent and dependent submissive, active and passive, abusive and abused ... It now appears that heterosexual differences in sexual organs are only one of the sources of “different attraction”, not all。
People are not exactly the same as animals in terms of sexual orientation
Even if the two physical heterosexuals meet, it does not mean that they are bound to love each other. It is not only differences and complementarities in sexual organs between two people, but also differences and complementarities in many psychological dimensions at the spiritual level. If it is considered that “resisting between the opposite sex” is necessary on the basis of the sex of the body alone, it is very “animal” and very “rape” to judge love by its biological characteristics。
Human beings are superior animals and human beings are richer and more emotional, so human love is much higher and more complex than the “heterosexual ingestion” of animals. So, should human love be measured in terms of differences in the sexual organs of the body, or in terms of advanced human emotions? Clearly the latter. Only by insisting on measuring love in terms of its superior emotions can human beings be distinguished from animals and their superior emotions respected。
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