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Children go to junior high and many parents suddenly panic. Primary schools are also well-informed, starting at the junior high school level with back-talking, cell phones, delayed work, a lack of communication, and a heavy amount of rebellion, which makes it easier to listen to or ignore. The fundamental problem is not that the child is broken, but the rules of primary school are no longer suitable for junior high school。
The junior high school is the critical period for children to be three-dimensional, self-regulatory and to learn to be stereotyped. According to the ministry of education's guidelines on the conduct of students in compulsory education updated in 2025, as well as data from recent studies on adolescent development, there are clear, reasonable and enforceable family rules for junior high school students, with clearly stronger learning stability, emotional management capacity, greater social responsibility and fewer conflicts between parents。
The rule is not to suppress the child, but to help him keep the line, develop habits and know the borders. Today i'm going to say, with my best words, what the rules are for a junior high school child to follow, and how to raise a disciplined child without yelling or yelling。
First of all, understand: the rules of junior high are completely different from those of primary school
At the primary level, the rules are more “behaved, timely and disciplined” and favour life and basic behaviour. But at the junior high level, children's self-consciousness broke out and began to pursue independence, dignity, privacy, and the “must, no, no, no” form of primary school would only go the other way。
Set the rules for junior high school and catch three core changes:
From a “parent order” to a “joint agreement”, the child is willing to comply with it by participating in the formulation
To move from “control of matters” to “crowding”, to “freedom” with small matters
From “just focus on achievements” to “goods, habits, security priorities”, achievements are results, not all。
The report of the china youth research centre on the study of family education in 2025 shows that more than 72 per cent of children in junior high school are in conflict with the rules, the standards are too vague and the standards are being applied. The rules are opposed, the parents are relieved, the children are comfortable。
These rules, which cover life, learning, mobile phones, socialization, safety and character, are the most practical and policy-oriented elements of the day and can be used directly by parents。
Ii. Learning rules: without stalking, children can learn
Many parents come up and catch grades, but the more they look at them, the more tired they are. It is really useful to set the boundaries of learning rhythms and responsibilities and to make the children themselves responsible for learning。
1. Operational priorities: completion of the mission before recreation
This must come first。
The rules can be set as follows: after school, eat something, have a simple rest, then do all the homework first, then touch the phone, watch tv and go out. It is not allowed to play and eat, let alone to work before bedtime。
Parents don't sit around and stare. They just check the results. The aim is to develop a child's sense of time priority rather than relying on supervision。
2. Non-admission of electronic products to learning areas
The desk is the place to learn, and the cell phone, tablet and game machine are not in sight。
Many children now appear to be writing their homework, and they do brush the news a few minutes later, which is extremely inefficient. The ministry of education's school electronics management guidelines, 2025, also explicitly state that students should be less disturbed by electronic devices and remain focused during their studies。
The focus goes up, the work is naturally fast, and the children can spend more time rest and exercise。
3. The knowledge of the day is clear and does not accumulate and do not rest do it
A simple agreement can be made: the question is taken up on the day of the error, the contents of which are not understood are asked by the students or teachers, and the question is not left until the next day。
The junior high school is highly knowledge-consistent, with the first two polarized and the first three falling directly. The rule is not to force children to study hard, but to develop a “no delay, no escape”。
4. Accomplishments are not blamed, but repeated
It's a family rule: it's not blind, it's bad, it's not scolding, it's just looking at the problem together。
Learning is the responsibility of the children themselves and the role of the parents is support, not supervision. In the long term, children are not anxious about points, but rather more willing to face problems。
Iii. Phone network rules: the easiest place to argue, the rules must be hard
Cell phones are the number one family conflict in junior high school. The report on internet use by minors in 2025 shows that the internet is available for almost two hours for all secondary school birthdays, with entertainment accounting for over 70 per cent. Too soft to lose control, too hard to rebel, and must be clear and enforceable。
1. Integrated mobile phone management, with no presence or access to the bedroom
The most practical rule is that mobile phones are in the common custody of parents and are used for fixed periods。
You don't have a cell phone in school, you can play 30 to 40 minutes when you're home, and you have to give it up half an hour before you go to bed. Cell phones are absolutely not allowed in the bedroom to stay up late to brush videos and chats, affecting sleep and development。
2. No short video fascination, no blinding and windy content
(b) agreement: no meaningless short video, no online scolding, no easy reward for anchors, no value for games。
Since 2025, the state has further upgraded the juvenile game prevention system, which does not last much longer. Parents cooperate with this rule, protecting the child's vision and avoiding bias by the internet。
3. Networks are accountable for their words and actions and do not fabricate, disseminate or follow
Tell the children to speak on the internet politely, without judging others, without transmitting uncertain information and protecting themselves and respecting others。
It's not just a rule, it's a web literacy. Many children are now able to avoid a lot of trouble because of the contradictions caused by an online sentence。
Iv. Role of life: be good for learning
The latest sleep management requirement of the ministry of education for 2025 is that a junior high school student should sleep for 9 hours a day. Inadequate sleep, reduced memory, agitated, distracted, and no way to make amends。
1. Fixed, sleeping at point, starting at point
For example, bed must be done before 22:00, getting up at 6. 30-7:00 a. M. And not sleeping for more than an hour on weekends。
Many children stay up late not because they study, but because they play mobile phones and think. If you die, the whole family will do it together, and the children will not make excuses。
Do your own business, not "show your hand"
Secondary school students have to take on the basic household tasks: cleaning their rooms, washing their clothes, packing their school bags, helping to make dishes, etc。
The ministry of education's labour education requirements for 2025 are clear: junior high school students work at least three hours a week. Children who work are more responsible, more sensitive to their parents and more humane。
3. Eating rules: less takeout, less drink, three meals
Less junk food, less hot food and less sugar. The physical condition directly affects the state of learning, a rule that appears to be minor but is related to the health of the child throughout adolescence。
V. Socialization and discipline: teaching children to be human, more than grades
Junior high school is a socially sensitive period, and friends have a great impact on children. The rule is not “no playing with anyone”, but “teaching children how to get along”。
Respect is the bottom line. It's the same for parents, teachers, classmates
A deal: no talking back, no scolding, no distasteful。
Many children start to think they're growing up in junior high and talk to their families randomly. That's the rule. The basic character of the child is not crooked。
No friends, but no one else
The child can be told that he/she is far removed from his/her obscurantism, negative complaints, violent companions, and that he/she lives with his/her own self-discipline, sunshine and advanced classmates. And don't laugh, don't isolate anyone, stay good。
A truly good social rule is to teach children to choose between kindness and kindness。
No comparison, no vanity, no blind pursuit of fame cards
Not like shoes, not like mobile phones, not like home, not as good as eating。
Teenage children are scornful and prone to consumerism. Put the rule in place ahead of time, the child's mind is calmer and he won't turn his way for dignity。
Security rules: security is the first rule at any time
There is no room for discussion of security rules and they must be observed unconditionally. These are the focus of attention in connection with the latest requirements for the protection of minors in 2025。
1. Return home on time
Where, with whom, and at what point, they must be stated in advance, not in isolated places and not at night。
2. Not to go with strangers, not to reveal family information
There is no location on the internet, no home address, no meeting with netizens, and personal privacy is protected。
3. Rejection of tobacco and alcohol and denial of access to premises not suitable for minors
No internet cafes, bars, ktv, etc., no electronic smoke, no alcohol, and no physical or mental health。
4. First contact with parents and teachers at risk
Whatever happens, you can tell your parents that the home is always the back. No fear, no concealment, no imposition。
Vii. Federal and humanity treatment: healthing sustainable children
Junior high school is highly volatile and prone to impulsiveness, sensitivity and inferiority. The rule is not to control emotions, but to teach children how to express themselves。
I can say it with emotion, but not with temper
Angry can calm down for a few minutes, without falling, without insults or cold war. Speak well, it'll always be more useful to be angry。
2. Be honest, don't lie, don't hide
Mistakes can be excused, but lying consumes trust. A promise: it is easier to do wrong than conceal to say that together。
Be thankful and not take parents for granted
Without complaining about the parents, without abandoning the family, knowing that the family is suffering and has a basic common sense。
Viii. The key to setting the rules: parents do these three points, the kids do them
A lot of family rules are written, ultimately useless, and the problem is not with children, but with implementation。
There are fewer rules, not a lot
The focus is on learning, mobile phones, food, security, character. Too many children can't remember。
2. Parents should lead by example, not double standard
Children are not allowed to play with their cell phones, and they are painted until midnight; they are asked to sleep early and stay up late. Kids can't。
The rules are convincing when parents do it first。
3. Implementation must be firm and moderate
Well-established rules do not compromise, nor do they seem to be weak. Soft but firm, children know the bottom line is unbreakable。
It's written at the end
Three years of junior high school is the transition from childhood to adolescence and the golden period of custom and character. The rules are not designed to make the child happy, but rather to create a sense of order, responsibility, boundaries。
Good rules, magnanimity, love and bottom lines, and children are neither repressed nor scattered. Parents are less vocal and more respectful of communication, and children are naturally becoming more disciplined。
Finally, i would like to ask you, what are the toughest rules for your children after they go to junior high? What's the worst headache on a cell phone, on a study, on a saloon? Welcome to the comment section
This article is devoted to the sharing of personal and family education experiences and perspectives and is not a substitute for professional education guidance programmes. There are differences between the characteristics of children and their family environment, and the rules can be adjusted with practical flexibility. All educational proposals are consistent with the state's existing educational policy and the requirements for the protection of minors, with the principle of positive orientation and scientific procreation。
