Many parents tend to think that family education is a particularly complex matter, and that it is necessary to learn advanced theory, to plan carefully and even to report at great cost in order to produce a child who understands well. In fact, there are so many bends and bends, and the best family education is hidden from the seemingly inconvenient routines, so that the children can grow up three decent and good-tempered children without the deliberate thought, and without the forced preaching or the sounding of their loaf。
Family education is never about the big idea, but about a conversation at the table, about tolerance when mistakes are made, about respect when together. Many parents tend to talk to their children, but ignore their own words and deeds, which are the most direct textbooks for children. And when you speak softly to your family, the child learns to be gentle; when you do not panic, the child learns to be calm; and when you know how to respect those around you, the child will be kind, and the upbringing in these details will work better than a thousand words。
There are also parents who feel that it is their duty to keep an eye on their children and to plan a full agenda. In fact, the true quality of the company is never formal, but rather is the freeing of the mobile phone, the serious response of the child when he/she shares the fun, the warm embrace of the child when he/she is sad. Ten minutes of conversation before bed, a walk after dinner, undisturbed company while writing homework, these tiny, warm moments become the bottom of the child's heart and give him a sense of security as he grows up。
Good home education, hidden in the imperfection of having children. They don't compare children to others, they don't push children to the top, they make mistakes and they slow down. The child was beaten, not accused of scolding, but accompanied by an analysis of the problem; the child was slow and did not push pressure, but gave him the wrong space. Parental inclusion and understanding are the best nutrients for a child to grow up, allowing the child to develop self-confidence and live as he or she is。
The upbringing of a child is an exercise in thin water, without pursuing an intense form of education, concealing the tenderness of the child in three meals and four seasons, integrating the upbringing into the raising of the hand and giving patience to the child every moment. These seemingly flat daily details, put together, are the highest level of family education and allow children to grow up in love and warmth。
