Hello, i'm deer head
A few days ago, a baby told me late at night:
So, i see the question in my head:
Are those who say they're scared of no disease
I was once deeply afraid
There are even tests of the extent of social fear. You can see if you are scared。
People who are deeply afraid are probably feeling the following:
It is difficult to reach people, make friends or enjoy experiences that may be good。
2. Failure to defend their rights and to express their views and values。
It is difficult for others to make a positive assessment of your merits。
4. Raise awareness of human instincts and cause excessive attention to external reactions。
5. You cannot think clearly and communicate effectively。
6. Always accompanied by negative feelings of frustration, fear and loneliness
It's not like there's no sick moaning. I'm just a girl who's scared out of deep society。
In the middle school period, the community was afraid of reaching extremes, even to the point where it was sad about seeing others, and when it spoke to others face to face, it would cry。
In junior high, adolescence, the body begins to develop and the food intake increases, leading to obesity. There are also spots on the face caused by the prolonged sun. I couldn't look people in the eye for a while, and i kept my head down。
Every time i look at someone else, i lose my ears and get away with it。
I'm afraid that i don't have the same tits as a boy, that i'm afraid that i'm gonna see the stars on my face, that i'm afraid that i'm gonna see my stale nose and the fat body that i can't hide in my loose clothes, and that i'm afraid that i'm going to let my aunt out。
Every time i come to my aunt, i'm afraid someone's going behind me, and i think they're talking about my pants。
In order to communicate less with others, i do not rest in classes, and others think that i love learning, but are afraid to speak to them。
The most serious thing is, when you talk to someone, you want to cry, you want to cry, you want to run away, you know what it feels like? I feel sick, i can't breathe, i have to blow my heart off。
Society is related to inferiority
Since when? At first i was a very confident girl, and i was the most beautiful girl in the world before i got fat and grew up。
This sentiment lasted until high school, until college, when i was extremely scared, and my roommates reported all kinds of associations, and i didn't sign up because i was afraid to speak and i was afraid to talk to people。
And then i got fat, i started dieting, i started eating, i started to vomit, i threw up to stomach acid, i threw up to the nose, and i couldn't talk to my throat when my stomach was sore。
I grew from 110 pounds to 84 pounds, but i couldn't control the urge to eat food, and looked in the mirror at myself thin within a month, and i gave up the resistance。
Then i stopped dieting and drinking, and i went to poverty by myself, travelling from chengdu on a train for more than 30 hours to ho hott north, which was particularly cold in november。
I sat on green city line 2, from the starting to the end, and from the end to the beginning, and i looked out the window and looked out at strange people and strange landscapes, and i suddenly felt that this strange world was not so terrible。
I went to a lot of places alone. A traveler cured me a lot。
After graduation, in the first year of my work, i was still scared, but i was able to slow myself down and make myself less visible。
The leader said, "don't know if your attitude is wrong or why you don't look at me when i talk to you."
He did not know that i would be afraid, afraid, and even after every interview i would go to the toilet to calm myself down and try not to cry because i am a social person。
At the end of the first year of graduation, the end-of-year wrap-up is about 50 minutes to complete a 60-page ppt for the whole company, and the week before the speech, i carried it down. When i said thank you for listening, all my colleagues gave me a round of applause, which they did not know。
"i gave my speech in such a way as to be the result of all the night i recited
After the end of the year-end wrap-up meeting, i went to the bathroom and cried for half an hour, and then i had a big, big talk, and i'd still be ready for a long time, but i'm not going to go to the bathroom to cry, but i'm going to take a deep breath and say to myself:
"it doesn't seem like much. It's no big deal. It's nothing scary."
Repeated practice made me feel much less afraid of the speech, as if social fear was much better。
There's more to fear than you
Once a social phobia friend like me, they said:
"i, the ideal of primary school, is to be on an island like robinson."
"sometimes i'm embarrassed to see a half-literate person on the road. Then if he ignores me, i'll lose a little bit. Special importance was attached to others' evaluations and special attention was appreciated. If i can, i hope i don't have to deal with others. I always felt insecure."
“the worst part of the world is that he's so out of character, that she can't talk so much, that they don't even know that i've been thinking about what i want to say a thousand times to keep each other from feeling awkward with me.”
“my dream is to have a farm of my own, to do my own work, to live my own life, without being disturbed or disturbed, because i don't like socialization, and i don't know what to say in most cases, socialization that is passive, like a machine, every day, and it's really disgusting.”
“i've had six years of social phobia and i've been saving myself, and i've been impressed by the fact that i can't take a bus, can't live in a university dormitory, can't eat in a canteen, has a tendency to be self-obsessed, and that feeling is particularly real and difficult as long as there are people. I've tried various ways, i've been to church, i've been to monasteries, i've been to monasteries, i can't work in crowded places, but i'm completely out of fear and anxiety. It's about my powerful will to change myself."
I don't fit in。
On most occasions, i'm either bored or afraid that i'm bored. But i'm tired of being bored and trying to make myself interesting。
I'm the easiest time alone because i don't feel bored。
Even if it is boring, it should be self-inflicted。
♪ paper in the wind ♪
Social phobia is a common mental disorder, with rates of 3-13 per cent. According to a survey of 8,000 individuals across 48 regions in the united states, the incidence of social phobia was 7. 9 per cent and the lifetime prevalence rate was 13. 3 per cent。
In china, a large number of patients are understated as “timid, inward” and undervalued. Even with a minimum 3 per cent prevalence rate, there are nearly 40 million people with social phobia in china。
That number is huge and alarming, and there is no shame in it, because you are not alone。
Don't be afraid
It's a long process, and i've always felt that there is a causal link between fear and inferiority。
Because of low self-esteem, feeling ill and afraid of others' eyes。
After graduation, the community is still with me, and i still don't have the guts to talk to strangers, and i'm still nervous and a little bored in a crowded place. But in order to overcome the fear of society, i've been working out, protecting my skin, protecting myself from the sun。
They're also raising dogs and golden rats, and these little animals don't care if you're fat or not, they'll always be with you because they think you're its world。
I've cured myself. You have to heal yourselves slowly。
