It's the reason the kids are attacking
I. Reasons for the assault of the child
The aggressive behaviour of children is often manifested by beating, scolding, pushing, kicking, stealing from others (or toys)。
Psychological studies show that young, aggressive children are often prone to crime when they grow up. Therefore, parents must not be negligent when the child is three years old when aggressive behaviour often occurs。
1. Common causes:
(1) the identification of children as incompetent is one of the reasons for aggressive behaviour. Surveys also show that violent television programmes also have a significant impact on aggressive behaviour by children。
(2) the natural outburst of unhappiness, such as excessive excitement, or the fact that one thing is always wrong, while adults ask him to do something he does not want to do。
(3) some parents have a bad temper and do not educate their children. The kid did something wrong and hit it indiscriminately. When the child is beaten, it is prone to resistance. Once it is “spreading” to others, it is easy to “smuggle” and develop attacks。
2. It is not enough to say what should not be done, or to ignore, protect or downplay the criticism of the child, and to actively help the child overcome it by:
(1) creating an environment that is not conducive to the attack. Children are more vulnerable to environmental effects than adults. It has been proven that attacks by children can be significantly reduced in an environment with a variety of toys, ample play time and good atmosphere control. Therefore, sufficient space, books and entertainment devices, etc., should be made available for children's choices to avoid, to the extent possible, slash-and-gun toys, offensive language and offensive incentives。
(2) teach children how to expound their emotions. Disturbing, frustration, anger, which is prone to aggressive behaviour, is a trigger for aggressive behaviour for children with weak self-control. It is therefore necessary to teach children ways to exaggerate their anger and to minimize offensive activities. It may be useful to direct children to their adults to share their feelings with them; to draw certain emotions out of the “rebels” who have no value in life; to lead children to cry in the right place and at the right time; and to move their unhappy and depressed feelings through activities。
(3) increase children's ability to control themselves using different methods. In the first place, children are concerned about the negative consequences of attacks. Secondly, the child's love and compassion should be nurtured so that he or she can feel the pain of his or her victim and so that he or she can refrain from further attacks。
(4) lead by example as a child. Parents should not, for reasons of their own discomfort, abuse or assault others without fear, take care of their own upbringing; demand the education of their children in a consistent manner, without scolding or indoctrination of their children; and avoid quarrels between husband and wife and act in the same way, setting a good example。
Ii. Educate aggressive children
Matsuma and his mother went to the real house to visit her, and at first two kids had a great time together, and i didn't know what was going on. And it was a man sitting on the ground crying。
It is clear that matsuón has resorted to “violence” in order to obtain a true hand of toys and has attacked his peers. In the case of attacks against children, parents should not be allowed to condone or ignore them while maintaining a calm and rational attitude. It is a natural nature of young children, sometimes motivated by the environment, and it is normal in their physical and mental development and should be viewed in a calm manner. However, aggressiveness is fairly stable, and a 14-year follow-up study by psychologists abroad found that 70 per cent of violent juvenile offenders were classified as assault at the age of 13 and 48 per cent as assault at the age of 9. That is to say, the higher the level of childhood assault, the greater the likelihood that crimes will be committed in the future, and the precursor to future behavioural problems。
“the embankment of thousands of miles, ultimatums”, which should be given due attention by parents, in order to prevent it. Although there is some biological basis for the child's offensive differences, the natural environment and education remain the determining factors that constrain them。
Parents must make their children aware of the causes of the assault, such as the abuse of others, and should be educated in a timely and critical manner. It is not possible to deal with simple, violent verbal abuse, blame and punishment, to communicate with the child in a timely manner, to listen patiently to the child's explanations, to understand the child's feelings, wishes and fears and to avoid interrupting the child's speech so that the child can feel respected. In this harmonious atmosphere, it is easier for the child to explain the reasons for the attack。
2. Be careful to develop a child's ability to migrate
Studies by some scholars have shown a negative correlation between the ability to migrate and the attack, i. E. The higher the ability to migrate, the lower the offensive. A person with a high degree of ability to migrate in a general situation is less likely to misinterpret the causes of the behaviour of others because he or she is better able to understand the intentions of others and is less likely to be provoked to attack。
And teach the child a reasonable way to vent
This would also reduce the frequency and intensity of attacks on children. For example, when you see a child with a negative mood, you can talk to the child in time and make some fun games with him. Rather, excessive repression of the offensive emotions of young children not only harms their physical and mental health, but the results of excessive repression are sometimes released through more violent attacks。
Parents can also reward a child for his/her pro-social behaviour, altruistic behaviour and impose certain penalties for serious assault, while at the same time allowing the child to understand the specific reasons for being rewarded or punished, and in appropriate cases, to give the child the material reward that he/she likes. When the child's assault is more serious, penalties may be imposed if necessary, such as temporary denial of the child's right to play with toys and the right to watch television programmes, with a view to changing his behaviour。
It is also important to keep children away from the causes of violence and malpractice. Because observing learning, subduing and imitating each other are important ways in which children's behaviour is shaped. And violent games and violent videos are not only important avenues for children's behaviour. On the other hand, violent video shows provide children not only with role models, but also with venues to practice assault. Parents should screen and control television programmes and games played by children to avoid violence, homicide and pornography, so as to cleanse the environment in which children grow up。
In sum, although there is a biological basis for the child's offensive differences, the natural environment and education remain the determining factors that constrain them. Parents must therefore take care and guide them right。
How to control children's aggressiveness
The aggressive nature of pre-school children rarely raises serious emotional problems, but if your children often hurt other children, hurt small animals, or do not calm down within minutes, it is necessary to see a paediatrician。
For most children of this age group, the occasional aggressiveness only indicates that they want to be strong, capable and able to control the world around them. The following are some of the recommendations that help pre-school children learn to behave properly:
1. Distinguishing imaginary warfare from violence, if your little zorro is not just waving, but explaining to him that a toy is used to practice, not to harm others, if other children beat him and encourage him to tell an adult, not to fight back。
2. To stress the difference between vengefulness and action, to tell the child that anger is possible, but not to hurt others or toss toys, and to tell the child that it is offensive if it appears in the form of ridicule。
In anticipation of a runaway situation, tell your children to control their impulses and wrestling may not be a major problem, but if your experience tells you that wrestling can also escalate to swinging, then separate the children and ask them, “why should i stop you?” if they don't know, tell them it's because they're too committed and people get hurt。
When your children have calmed down and discussed their problems with him, if they have to fight and separate them, but only when you have the opportunity to be alone with your children, you can ask him, “if you and nick want to play with the same toy, do you have any other solutions?” helps him to think about the possibility of compromise and rotation。
With the right inducement, most pre-school children can understand, and it is unacceptable to tell that using violence to subdue others, willi quickly abandoned his habit of fighting with mike, and today they have become good friends, fighting each other against the perceived bad guys, not the lively little ones who fight each other。
Policy responses:
How can “aggressive” children be educated? ♪ when the baby is violent, tell him with determination and gentleness: "no, i hope you don't hit again!"
2. Understanding the bad mood of the baby and helping to find more appropriate ways to vent it。
3. To help the baby adapt to the new environment as soon as possible, if a change in the living environment leads to short-term violence。
The child is “aggressive”. What should we do? Help the baby to think about how it feels to be attacked by him: "you beat the penis, you see him crying, let's comfort him." "you don't have to hit her, you can ask her to give it back to you."
5. During the early years of teaching, care is taken about the behaviour of the baby to prevent him from causing harm to other small partners。
Children are “offensive” and what should be done? Feeding a safe little animal, like goldfish, turtles, so that he learns to care for others by caring for small animals and nurturing his compassion。
