He knew what to do, but he didn't do it and ended up blaming himself. Many have experienced “delayed” experiences, and serious ones have even affected normal lives. Indeed, “delayed disease” is not a disease, and it can lead out of the shadow of delay。
The director of the psychological counselling and treatment centre in songjiang district and the chief of the psychiatric department regularly attends a psychiatric clinic in the east and recently received a visitor, xiao yu (alias), who is a university student and is slow in her work and prefers to delay. She told the doctor: “even if i had to do something, i would be too slow to do it, and i would not be able to do it at the end.” she is now troubled by delays that have seriously affected her learning and daily life. Her psychological test results showed moderate depression。
The psychological problem is what is often referred to as “delayedness.” “but so-called `delayedness' is not a diagnostic term for medicine, it is more a psychological disorder, and it is often placed in the context of depression, anxiety disorder, etc.” is often described to the east。
The causes of “delayedness” are multiple. For university students, changes in the learning environment and inadaptation of learning methods are important factors. In addition, excessive external temptation is a factor that cannot be overlooked. Today, the internet, social media, recreational activities, etc., are constantly distracting students and making it difficult for them to focus on learning. Poor methods of family education may also lead to delays. The child may become a habit of delay if the parents are over-indoctrination or lack the right direction as they grow up. Excessive pressure, personality factors and a reduced sense of self-effectiveness are also important causes of delays。
“delay disorder” is clinically manifested in three types. The first is to delay unpleasant things. Such things often go hand in hand with negative sentiments, and people instinctively want to escape, leading to delays. The second is to delay something that is difficult. Faced with difficulties, people are prone to fear and feel that they cannot do it and then choose to postpone action. The third is the delay in what needs to be done but difficult to take decisions. In such cases, people are often unable to start action in a timely manner because of decision-making difficulties。
How can “delayed” be treated professionally? First, cognitive correction is the key. We need to recognize that things should be done in a gradual manner, without fear when difficulties are encountered, but rather by actively seeking out good solutions. Secondly, we must train ourselves in the concept of “immediate action”, overcome inertia and act positively. It is also important to change the weaker parts of our personality in a modest way, and to build strong ideas. “at the same time, we can change our weaknesses by taking advantage of the strengths of others.”。
The doctor reminds you that if the delay has seriously affected normal life, it is recommended to consult a specialist at the psychiatric clinic on time. If necessary, medication can be used to treat the disease. With professional help, we can gradually get out of the problem of delay and become more active and active。
