In real life, china's youth network, beijing, 15 november (journalist lee wah-sik), is increasingly focusing on personal feelings and pursuits in the face of love. Therefore, before love arrives, you will judge the acceptance of each other in the light of your own feelings, which may focus on each other's appearance, character, place of residence, knowledge, etc. So, is this feeling reliable? Can you believe it when you're in love
In recent days, the chinese youth network campus news agency has conducted a questionnaire on the subject of “can you believe in a relationship or not” for 3,361 university students nationwide. The results show that 2574 students, or 76. 58 per cent, have chosen to do so and 787 have chosen not to do so, or 23. 42 per cent。
"being in love can trust the feeling, and by feeling you can know if you really like yourself."
Shandong university student choi chingqing thinks that dating requires believing in feelings. She said that it was her intuition that honesty was a key element in her notion of love, and that it could be felt in the process。
She explained that it was true that they could not lie to each other, that both sides were honest and that they were not vain in love and were in it。
Cai jing said that girls themselves were sensitive to small things and felt that they really liked themselves. Watching the little things in love, if the other person really cares about himself, it'll respond, it'll make you feel the other person's heart. “it is also a feeling that both sides have a place of mutual attraction and like each other.”
Faced with those who believe that love cannot be trusted, she believes that everyone has a different vision of love and that it needs to be developed slowly, “some people may be more sensitive to character and inappropriate, feel less important, or because they feel inaccurate”
"i think it's possible to believe that love at first sight is a common example." wang lijie, a university student in anhui, believes that he likes someone, perhaps in one of his casual encounters, who sees the other with a feeling of emotion, which is the feeling of love。
What do you feel about love? In the face of this problem, wang lijie believes that it is a matter of shame and detail. “the need for a male face cannot be described, but only by feeling. In terms of detail, the other side needs to take into account its own emotional changes, and it is the most basic detail to be able to avoid being embarrassed.”
Wang liqie indicated that if she met a boy who had feelings, she would take the initiative and try to get to know each other first, and if the other had feelings for themselves, she could develop further. “of course, if we get along, unlike before, we need to give up.”
Henan university student shaolin shares the view that it is important to believe in love. She said that if there was a feeling for a person, it was that the other person had something to like。
She's more concerned, first, with three things, and secondly, with a clean image. When you meet a boy who has feelings, she chooses to take the initiative. "if i like it, i'll try it on my own. If i don't, i'll regret it."
In love, tullie thinks that each other gives themselves the most important feeling, and that if the other side agrees with each other, it will continue to be with each other. “if it doesn't feel the same, then we have to say goodbye and prove that we're not fit to be together.”
Specialist: love can trust feelings, but not all
The director of the centre for mental health education of the institute of technology, the second-level national psychologist, a member of the chinese association for mental health and a specialist invited by the hunan provincial health board, peng zai, believe that when it comes to feelings of love, some people “at first sight” feel right and choose, and cherish and love each other throughout their lives. Some people “regrets” and regret that they believed their feelings too much, leading to emotional discomfort and frustration in love. Can you believe in love
Pengzawa believes, first of all, that there is a need to understand the meaning of feelings. “feel” is psychologically interpreted as a reflection of individual attributes of the individual brain to objective things that directly affect the perceived organ. A sense is a subjective feeling and experience, with no clear criteria and boundaries, and there is a difference in the perception of everyone。
“therefore, when we fall in love with our feelings, there is no absolute difference, but rather `different'.” he said that, in the new era, it was necessary for himself to recognize and understand the sense of love and to guarantee its quality。
Peng zai believes in “feel” in love. With age, the demand for and desire for love has grown, but for the majority of people who have not experienced it, it is both expected and unknown, and even unknown how to get along with their lovers, lack of love skills, etc。
"when you're introduced to someone who's in love, you often ask what kind of person you like, and you seem to be vague about what type you like, and you need to be sure by feeling, and it's particularly important to you at this point." he said。
Peng zai suggested that when in love, a clear understanding of what you feel needs to be made concrete. For example, this perception is reflected in the external image of the other party or in its inner literacy, internal and external balance or unique love. These specific elements make it possible for individuals to avoid ambiguity about love, to “have one” and to make love more real。
Peng zai said that sometimes, when an unexpected eye exchange creates a love affair, love is not invited to come, it may be a feeling of “appearing to know”, it may be a feeling of “beautiful encounter”, it may be a feeling of “movement”, or it is a feeling of “moment”, which is, in fact, a subjective feeling。
“this means that `the belief' is based on a full understanding of yourself and of yourself.” according to peng zai, a mature individual tends to be more aware of what he thinks and to make choices more rationally, feeling based on rational perception, otherwise it is easier to develop into unrealistic blindness and emptiness。
While in love, you believe in feelings, the pengzawa proposal is not entirely true. He said that there was a saying on the internet: "love begins with valour, with talent, and with loyalty." a good external image is more likely to create a “photo-ring effect” and inadvertently magnifies the positive elements of the other party, thus creating a faster sense of appreciation or affection, which “starts in the face” to fall in love, often at a higher risk。
“love should be based on knowledge and knowledge, and the sense of `starting with shame' offers possibilities for love.” he believed that there was a need for greater inclusion and acceptance, which was a prerequisite for love, when they were familiar with each other, when they were in a different state than they had been at first sight, and when they even had character features and behavioural behaviours that exceeded their original expectations。
“so, love cannot be fully believed in the feeling that stable and enduring love requires both parties to run, that love is loyal and exclusive, that love becomes the driving force for happiness, and that it is an indispensable part of the return to reality that goes beyond `the feeling'.” pengzawa says。
Peng zai suggested that most people follow their own feelings when they fall in love, and that the following points should be taken into account when looking at them: first, learning to recognize themselves, promoting self-performity, being better able to understand their needs for individuals who are independent, being “fearing” is their own cognitive experience, and raising the level of individual knowledge of maturity。
Second, learning to speak with one's own “feel” allows for a specific analysis of the legitimacy of one's “fear”, the relevance of one's feelings vis-à-vis the other, and the active expression of inner feelings and feelings。
Thirdly, love needs to operate, to believe in the feeling of love and to sustain it with tolerance and sincerity. “love is a high-level human emotion, and therefore the ability to love and to care about the spirit of love is necessary to protect it.” (cai chongqing, wang liqing, toil li)
