Eighty-six percent of the single students interviewed looked forward to a school relationship
Zhong zhongqing network journalist, toshien chun
Intern, xiao pinghua
Love time on college campus is a good memory of youth, an unforgettable growth experience. School relationships are not only a popular topic among students but also a social concern. How can we build the right view of love and recognize the true meaning of school love
Last week, a survey conducted by the joint questionnaire centre of the chinese youth journal (wenjuan. Com) on the number of students in school in 2011 revealed that the most important aspects of targeting university campuses are three-minded, character and moral conduct. If a school relationship was not reached, 69. 6 per cent of the students interviewed would regret it. In a school relationship, 68. 0 per cent of the students interviewed thought they could learn to deal with emotional problems and become more mature。
38. 5 per cent of undergraduate students, 53. 7 per cent of undergraduate students and 7. 8 per cent of graduate students are in third and fourth grade. Men accounted for 41. 3 per cent and women 58. 7 per cent。
Eighty-six percent of the single students interviewed were looking forward to a university school relationship
Liu jintao is a senior student at a teacher training college in nanchang. When he first got into school, he had great expectations about love. “lucky to meet a girl in his first year of school and take every opportunity to express his feelings.” they've been together for three years now。
Zheng xiaoyu, a young girl, is currently single at a teacher training college in sian. She looked forward to having a sweet school relationship. “the university is a place of many wonderful beginnings, full of unknown possibilities. I want to meet someone who knows and loves himself. Both of them know each other and work together”。
Of the single university students interviewed, 82. 6 per cent were looking forward to a university campus relationship, of which 30. 3 per cent were very eager. Only 17. 5 per cent indicated that they did not. The interactive analysis found that boys were more expected than girls, and undergraduate students were more expected。
Zhu xiaoman, a college student in beijing, is single. “i've always looked forward to going to library and shopping with my boyfriend and doing a lot of interesting things. But i don't like love. It's about to graduate. It's one person, and it's always a pity.”。
Zhao moon undergraduated at a comprehensive university in hangzhou, where she had always been single and had a natural attitude towards school relationships. “when graduating, they often face problems of urban development and different planning directions, which create considerable uncertainty. I think it's an objective reality for college campus relationships and a big test. So i'm kind of in love with campus. First, you have to get your studies done."。
If a school relationship had not been reached, 69. 6 per cent of the university students interviewed would have expressed regret. The interactive analysis found that boys interviewed (76. 2 per cent) felt this more strongly than girls interviewed (65. 0 per cent)。
The students interviewed are looking for three things, character and morality
At the university level, liu jintao places great value on each other's personality and learning attitude. “for example, whether money or material are valued, or whether there are differences in treatment between the different occupational groups. Be good to your parents, respect your elders, and be grateful. Because we are students, learning is the most basic attitude and is responsible for ourselves. If i could do it, i would think it was a very good girl”. He said that that was what his girlfriends thought, that they were all in agreement and that they were very comfortable and happy together。
Zhejiang media institute student seo is engaged to a boyfriend. In her view of love, the two of them had to have an interest in one another, to play together and to be happy every day. Next, life habits are similar. “be good and be kind”。
He graduated from a technology university last year. He's been with his girlfriend for five years. He states that he values the inside of the other, like character, manner of action, etc., more than many people regard external conditions such as face, body, etc. “both are more mature and capable of dealing better with each other's problems from the point of view of their relationship”。
Zhao moon felt that it was important for the boys to be forward-looking, “i don't like to play and do nothing all day”. Second, she felt that it was important for the two to have a three-way view, “to be small enough to be in daily relationships, to be larger than in future development planning. And have a good temper, be polite and mature.”。
What factors do college students value when looking for someone on campus? According to the survey, the three-viewed students were ranked first, with a 71. 2 per cent selection rate. The second is personality, which is valued by 65. 0 per cent of the students interviewed. This was followed by moral conduct (55. 7 per cent). Other areas include physical appearance (46. 5 per cent), personal abilities (38. 9 per cent), hobbies (36. 5 per cent), body size (33. 8 per cent), lifestyle (32. 9 per cent) and academic achievement (21. 1 per cent). In addition, 9. 7 per cent of the university students interviewed felt that as long as they felt right。
The three most important aspects of the relationship between students and students are the three points of view, character and moral character, which the zhejiang province association for the advancement of mental health and the hangzhou city trade union have found to be an ideal and rational state. She also mentioned that some university students were influenced by social aesthetics when they were in love and that they valued each other. Girls are more sensitive and considerate to each other when choosing a spouse than boys. In addition, because of the demands placed on homes, cars, etc. In the market for current marriages, there is a greater focus on family conditions in schools。
In college relationships, 68. 0% of the students interviewed thought they could learn to deal with emotional problems
Liu jintao felt that a school-based relationship can make young university students mature and take responsibility more quickly. There is a clearer understanding of love and a growing sense of how to treat and deal with it. When they first got together, they didn’t know how to do it properly, and they always moved out of the way, and they were under a lot of pressure, and they weren’t happy. “we were separated, cooled, and self-reflected by the disease. Four months later, the epidemic went back to school, and when we met again, we both had a new understanding of emotions and got along better”。
Tsui thinks that dating can learn to analyse and deal with problems rationally. “for example, one side has emotions, would not understand, would be angry, would be cold war. Now that a problem has arisen, we will think about what the problem is, and we will communicate peacefully, come back and solve the problem”。
What's the difference between dating in college campuses? 68. 0 per cent of the students interviewed thought that they could learn to deal with emotional problems and become more mature, 50. 6 per cent thought that they would fit in with intimate relationships, and 50. 2 per cent felt that they could encourage each other to study. Other things are the development and promotion of a sense of responsibility (45. 3 per cent), the promotion of self-confidence and personal image (37. 5 per cent), the enrichment of life experience (36. 5 per cent) and the addition of a companionship and care (30. 7 per cent)。
Ling says that it's important for university students to learn the ability to love in love. She pointed out, in a nutshell, that two people could not go out on instinct. “the instinct here refers to the way in which a native family brings problems to one person and deals with them. For example, having an only-born child is highly favoured by parents, and since childhood, all needs have been met. So they often ask each other to meet themselves. "my parents are so good to me, you should do the same."。
What exactly does “capacity for love” mean? Liang says you have to accept that you don't have the same idea. In cognitive terms, it is possible to think differently and have a sense of solidarity. With emotional management capacity, they can communicate when they disagree. “someone with weak emotional management can fall in love and often fight. Many couples argue to the end, "we're not fit, we can't be together." in fact, we can sit down and talk and think about whether we can get both sides to agree.” she reminded university students of the importance of developing capacities for love and reducing unnecessary contradictions in relationships。
She also reminded that the most fundamental task for university students was learning. Love is one of the results of relationships between schoolmates after school hours. “many parents are now affected by the problems of marriage among young people in society, and they will also press their children to fall in love at university campuses. I believe that love is spontaneous and should not be influenced by parents' motivation, social atmosphere, etc.”。
