The 25-year-old girl, formerly the business manager of a securities firm, who is capable and has the guts to do so, is also very beautiful and regularly attends chambers of commerce and parties and is the backbone of the company. A few days ago, the company hosted a business dinner with guests from the industry's “excellent”, speaking in an elegant manner and dressed in a dress. Zhang zheng was no exception and a nice evening dress was carefully chosen. At the party, she was having a laugh with her client, and a female colleague came to remind her that “the zipper in her back is open”. Zhang zheng's face rose red and entered the bathroom and refused to come out。
Since that “opportunity”, zhang has paid special attention to his own image, his actions have been modest and have slowly evolved to see people lose their self-righteous face, and his job performance has declined sharply. She keeps putting pressure on herself, or she'll lose her job. However, the more quietly she reminded herself, the worse the result being that she would not appear in public and would not be able to work properly. Finally, she was fired from the company。
Why are people red? When dealing with people who are not familiar or more important, people can be nervous or excited, and reflectively give rise to a sense of neuroactivity, increasing the circulination of teacupine-like substances such as adrenalin, which accelerates the heart rate and the expansion of the carotid vessels, which then becomes risky red. This is a normal reaction in human interaction and is common over time。
However, due to a lack of self-confidence, some pay particular attention to their own evaluation. Fearing that others can talk about themselves, losing their faces but not eliminating them, they become heart disease. Prior to dealing with people, they feared that they would be blushing, and when doing so, they were more careful about whether they were blushing. For a long period of time, the excitement has developed in the respective regions of the brain, and when you enter the environment where you interact with people, you have a warm face and a sense of internal anxiety, which, together with the comments or laughs of others, makes you more nervous and creates a sense of shame。
Shyness is a complicated state. When with strangers, shyness is stronger than normal stressful or semi-confident anxiety
The shy are more likely to be inward-looking, but not all are shy。
Humiliation is not all negative, and moderate timidity is an important condition for maintaining self-esteem. A shy person can be more reliable and can easily become a friend. Of course, what is being said here is “proportional”, which, if too shy, becomes a psychological disorder and even triggers social fear。
Social fear is a notion of coercion, and patients suffer from contact. Of course, everyone may have some degree of social fear, but when they develop into neurosis, their fear and suffering are so deep that they avoid contact with people and cause serious obstacles to daily life。
Common social phobias are very similar to common shyness, expressed in the form of red face or inability to face each other, known as “naked fear” and “sighted fear”. Social phobia is a psychological barrier that is very painful and severely affects the life and work of patients. In terms of morbidity, social phobia is already the third-highest mental illness after depression and alcoholism. There is also an increasing trend in the number of patients due to the increasing pressure on people。
People with social phobia are often reluctant to seek medical treatment because they are afraid or unwilling to contact strangers or because they are afraid to be labelled as “psychological problems”。
Psychotherapy for social phobia, which generally involves behavioural therapy, allows patients to constantly simulate the occurrence of social phobia in a hypothetical space, repeats the symptoms and adapts the patient to an anxious environment. Or exposure therapy, where patients stand on the streets of the car and use enormous psychological stimulus to force treatment。
The usual shyness can be controlled if you are brave enough to feel shy. If you feel nervous because you are shy, you can stand on your feet and lift your feet gently, and then you can put them down for a few seconds, and you can do 30 times over and over and over again, you can eliminate the feeling of uncertainty。
It is a form of release that can make people feel more comfortable and, if it is accompanied by consolation and help from others, confidence and courage grow. Overcoming shyness is a project that builds capacity in all areas. Self-confidence is the ability to overcome shame。
