My first reaction was ludicrous. After eight months of solid preparation for the examination, the knowledge points of the survey were so full, the material of the doctrine had to be kept open, and the five recent tests had stabilized at more than 140 points, with a job report rate of 20:1, and everyone around us had a chestshot saying, "you've got a steady landing, no need to panic."
But he said that the closer the exam, the more he panicped。
"what if you can't get to the exam? If you can't get to the exam, it's all in vain?"
I'm particularly impressed by the fact that he's not the only one on the phone
"i'm the first person to take a job, but i'm always anxious to cry
"does the knowledge point pass three times, or do you think you're not ready to learn?"
"everyone thinks i'm stable, and i'm the only one who knows that i'm dying of anxiety."
If you don't talk about puzzles today, you don't want to focus on the exams, and you talk to all the candidates who are ready to take the exams, who are anxious, and tell them the truth:
You feel like you can do anything, but you're still anxious. It's normal. It's not fortuitous, it's not for you. But remember, the exam is never the only answer to life, and even if it fails, the sky will not fall, and your life will live。
Let me tell you the truth: why do you have everything, but you still have anxiety
A lot of people would advise you to “don't think too much” but only those in it understand that this anxiety is not a “suspension”. It's not because you didn't learn well, you didn't prepare enough, it's because these three knots, they're squirting you。
First of all, you're using "ashore" as the only standard answer to life
This is the source of all anxiety。
Since the day you decided to take the exam, you've drawn a line to your life: a test = success = success = failure = failure = failure = failure = failure。
You used one test as the only measure of a man's failure, and you put all hope in this paper. So even if you're better prepared and better informed, you're afraid of one in 10,000 mistakes. - because in your mind, you can't afford to lose, you can't。
But you forget, life is never an exam with only one answer. At the age of 20, there are infinite possibilities in your life, and the examiner is only one of many options, not the only way back, not the end of your life。
And second, you're not afraid of "no," you're sorry for the days and nights you've been through
I know how it feels。
To prepare for the examination, you gave up your friends' party, you gave up your travel track, you gave up your job for nine to five years, you even dropped your long relationship; you spent countless nights at one or two in the morning, brushing up the all-taiwan survey, writing a book of opposable material and wrong notes, coffee getting gastric acid, and you lost a lot of hair。
The more you spend on sinking, the more you fear failure. You were never afraid of “the subject” but of doing so much for yourself, and in the end there was no good result; you were afraid that you would last so long and that you would end up emptying your basket, and i'm sorry for the tooth-biting yourself。
Third, you carry not just your own expectations, but everyone around you
Many times, it's not the test itself, it's the expectations of those around us。
“we believe in you, come on,” in the words of parents on the occasion of the new year's festival, “you will be the judge of the civil service, and you will be the judge of the day”, and in the words of friends and classmates, “you've been ready so long, you will be able to take the exam”. These kind encouragements have slowly become shackles on you。
You're afraid to fail, to disappoint the parents you're looking forward to; to be laughed at by the relatives behind you, "have worked hard for half a day or not" ; and to fail, to look down in front of friends. Even if you're better prepared, you're afraid to live up to everyone's expectations。
I'd like to tell you something: if this exam fails, it's really nothing
I've seen too many people, and i've seen the exam as a life battle, and i feel like i can't do it and i'm done with my life. The reality, however, is that the vast majority of people's lives will not be completely determined by the success or failure of a single exam。
There are too many live examples around me:
One of the girls, the second in the first provincial exam, failed the interview by 0. 2 points, when she cried at home for a whole week and felt her life was completely ruined. She could turn her mind around and take a local career test, and go ashore once, now nine to five, without overtime, pay and benefits, better than many civil servants at the grass-roots level, and live in peace and comfort
(a) a boy, who had failed for two years in a row, was advised not to do anything. After abandoning the exam, he became a mediaman based on his written and logical thinking, and now earns far more than civil servants, but has also achieved freedom of time and travel to a lot of places he previously wanted
The other girl, who had failed three times and finally landed the fourth time, said that the failure of the first three had never been in vain, and that the pits she had stepped on, the lessons she had learned and the mindset she had learned had been the last to land。
You see, the exam was successful, but it was more than the end of the world。
You've spent countless nights preparing your exams, disciplined and tenacious, not lost because of a single test; you've painted a thousand questions, you've learned logic, judgment, and you've followed you; you've written dozens of essays, you've crafted words, you've crafted policy understanding skills, you've done everything in any profession, in any position。
The growth you've reaped on your way to the exam is more precious than a landing notice, and it supports you further。
You have the courage to sign up for months or even half of the year, and you're better than most people before you take the test. You know, almost half of the people who take the exams every year are famous and drop out, and many of the people who are ready to do it halfway, and you've won most of them by now。
And finally, for you who are anxious, three of the most serious little advices
I don't want to talk to you about "don't worry" as a useless thing. Anxieties are common. What we have to do is not eliminate anxiety, but reconcile with it and walk into the examination with it。
Let's not try to refresh the problem, let's give ourselves a final feedback, let's not force ourselves to refresh the problem, let's eat the mystery, and let's get more and more scared. Turning back to your wrong book, your notes, the stuff you've been through, looking at the knowledge you've eaten, telling yourself over and over, "i'm ready. I can do it." your goal has never been to score a full score, but to give it a steady score. One half-hour a day to “leave the desk” so that you don't crucify yourself 24 hours a day in your anxiety. The more bored you are, the easier you think. Half an hour a day to smoke, drop the books, walk out, listen to songs, talk to family members, even if they sit by the window and hang out. The exam is a long-term battle, and it's not through a few nights before it can be won. It's easy enough to keep your brain at its best. Reconciliate with yourself and accept that "i may fail" and try to ask myself in peace: will the sky fall, even if it fails? Nope. You can go to world war ii, you can take a job, you can find a job, you have a million ways to go. The value of your life is never determined by an exam. You're good. You're not good。
Dear examiner, the provincial exam is just a stop on your long journey, not a finish。
We'll do our best and accept all the results. It's just a life experience, and the growth you reap on this road will turn into light and light your future。
There's still a long way to go, and your life can't be defined by a single test. Don't panic, don't panic. You're doing great. Just walk into the exam with me。
End interaction
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